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livizzle's picture

Submitted by livizzle on Fri, 07/15/2011 - 10:37pm

Are there SMs out there who refuse to watch their skids when their DH is not around? How did you go about explaining this to your DH?

Tonight was what I guess you would call my final straw. BM called DH while we were out with friends claiming that I didn't feed skids when I watched them today. This isn't true in the least! DH was home to fix SS6 lunch, and each time I would ask SD9 what she wanted to eat, it was "I don't know." There was a cabinet full of food. She is 9 years old and fully capable of fixing something or asking for something. BM was also complaining that I called SS6 a brat. Oh, yes, I did! Before BM picked them up, I asked them to clean up their room. SD9 picked up almost everything. All she asked was for SS6 to put the pillows on the bed. He threw a FIT! Screaming, crying, the works. I told him that he wasn't leaving until he picked them up. He started beating the walls and everything. I told him that he was acting like a brat. So?

I'm not going to leave myself open to anymore false accusations from BM. What's next? I'm beating them?

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stepmama2one's picture

Submitted by stepmama2one on Fri, 07/15/2011 - 10:55pm

Trust me I know how a 9 year old can act. What she is doing is she is just acting out because the more she acts out the more attention she will get from everybody. I would tell her father that unless he can sit and have a talk with her and make her realize it doesnt matter what her mother says because her mother doesnt live there then he needs to figure out who can watch her while he is gone. He needs to know that you both need to stick together on this deal or SD is going to treat you like shit until he puts his foot down....

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 12:03am

To bad your husband didn't answer, "Sorry, can't hear you, I'll talk to you another time"....and then hung up.

Typical BM and skid crap.....always going on.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 1:01am

Yep. I stopped and it did not go over well. Two examples...

1. DH wanted to go to his friends house and for me to keep his kid...I said NO. He complained that ALL his ex's would do this for him. I told him that was THEIR problem, he could go back to them. I told him in fact, since "I" had no kids, HE could keep his kid and I was going out that night...and SO I DID! He was mad for a while and later understood how unfair he was being.

2. ONCE I took care of his kid cause he worked Saturdays sometimes, but he always wanted me to keep her if he worked. Idiot kid came over SICK, but of course, that night she got sick...I heard DH talk to crazy witch and he was "defending me" saying something about "SHE DID NOT FEED HER SOMETHING TO MAKE HER SICK!" That was the LAST TIME I took care of his kid. I explained why and he complained. No longer my problem.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 5:48am

I told my DH if he's not here, the SK's aren't here. I am invisible to them, have been since the "beginning"

One time they called their mom to come get them. They snuck out of the house, got in her car and drove off without saying a word to me. All because I talked to ALL kids (mine and DH's) about behaving and treating each other nicely. That situation was ugly ugly ugly.

Prior to that, it seemed that every time DH wasn't there, BM would show up and raise hell over one thing or another. Called me some interesting names in front of the SK's, which was totally inappropriate. If she's willing to say that to my face, I cringe to think of what she says about me any other time.

Never again. Period.

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Submitted by stepmama2one on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 6:16pm

Sad Really? This happened with my and my SD. I was at home with SD and a 7 month old daughter of my own and my SD asks if she can go out to play. I told her yes but to come back in about 20 minutes because we were getting ready to leave to go get her dad. 20 minutes passed and no SD. I called my MIL because she lived next door and I asked her if she had seen SD. She said no. So I called my husband and he told me to look for her. I looked for her for an hour, on my own, with a 7 month old baby in December weather. Come to find out when I went to call my husband back I recieved a call from Biomom saying" My daughter called me and wanted to come home so I came out and got her." I was so pissed I just hung up. Come to find out later on when we got the SD back that her mom had told her that they were going out of town and if SD didnt find someway to make it home that SD would miss out on all of the fun. So SD ran and hid somewhere outside and waited for her mom to come pick her up. I swear I could of killed them both!!

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Submitted by briarmommy on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 6:50am

I hate watching SS while my Dh is at work all summer long but I do it, I put a stop to it the "extra time" though. When BM would call and offer extra time DH would always accept even if it he was working because he said he would get that couple hrs in the morning with him before work, ya he got his couple hrs but then I got the whole rest of the day. So I told him no, I wouldn't watch him extra time anymore, it was nip that in the bud or during the whole long summer visitation(all three months of summer SS is here except for one week and one weekend) I wouldn't watch him. He chose to tell BM no on extra time unless it is on days he is off work now. But the minute BM starts complaining of my treatment of SS or SS starts false aligations I told Dh I would never watch him alone agian so he knows know that if that shit starts he no longer has a babysitter. If they are making false aligations stop, its not worth it, because if they start they will make worse ones later and its better to just end watching him before all that happens.

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 2:26pm

Hey...I got "turned in" because I didn't cut the crust off husband's (11+ years old) sandwich....showed her where the knives were if she wanted to do that. Yep...called husband to let him know I should be doing that for her. Husband replied from now on the kids would be preparing their own sandwiches. Yeah Husband!!!!

Here's the deal, I'd gladly done it if the girl hadn't been such a princess bossy you know what. But when she pushed the sandwich to me, raised her eyebrows (just like how that freakin' Casey ANthony does) and demanded I cut the crust......uh-uh with a sweet smile.

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 2:26pm

Hey...I got "turned in" because I didn't cut the crust off husband's (11+ years old) sandwich....showed her where the knives were if she wanted to do that. Yep...called husband to let him know I should be doing that for her. Husband replied from now on the kids would be preparing their own sandwiches. Yeah Husband!!!!

Here's the deal, I'd gladly done it if the girl hadn't been such a princess bossy you know what. But when she pushed the sandwich to me, raised her eyebrows (just like how that freakin' Casey ANthony does) and demanded I cut the crust......uh-uh with a sweet smile.