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Reason I want to contact BM's DH's X

losingmymind's picture

Complicated. See I have always had a really good gut instinct on most things but particularly BM. We asked for insurance cost proof in regards to cs. All that was presented was a letter stating "family" portion and then this was divided by BM's children, her and her DH. Well...what was not mentioned was the fact that BM's current husband who is the insurance carrier also has two children from his previous marriage and I am positive that they were covered the last time we were in court on cs. See, I want to know if they are covered or not. My DH tried calling the employer that wrote the letter to "clarify" but they won't return his calls so I thought...maybe I could just call the ex wife of BM's husband.
Thing is that crazy BM said one time that they were all friends. Now I called her out in an email argument one time asking her what she does differently to her husbands ex for them to get along and the said that "what relationship I may or may not have is of none of your concern". Well, I kinda took that as she was full of shit that whole time she called her "friend" but when it comes to contacting I don't want to do anything that would cause trouble for my DH as we are far from being done with the courts after this last stunt that BM tried to pull and still is.

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new_step_mommy's picture

I had thought about doing this one time also, but before I could even get around to it the ex contacted me. Gave us ALL kinds of great ammo. Our file of her BS is fatter then the chicago phone book! Biggrin

melis070179's picture

I would do it. If you have a way to. Just tell her you tried contacting the company, they haven't returned your calls, it wasn't clear & you can't trust what BM says so you wanted to ask her for clarification. Even if she tells BM, oh well. You were just trying to get it cleared up & since she never cooperates you didn't bother asking her.

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

SM#1's picture

If you don't want to contact the ex yourself have your attorney write her a letter, letting her know you need to know who carries her H children on the insurance. I would send the same copy to the BM to let her know you will find out. This isn t something they can lie about----on our insurance cards it list all the people covered. And your H has a right to have a copy of his childrens insurance card. If BM refuses, contact your attorney--she will be in hot water.

Hopeful378's picture

I agree with melis070179. I'm assuming that BM is a tad psycho and throws fits if she doesn't get her own way? If that is the case, I can understand why it might seem that contacting BM's DH's ex would cause another fight. However, BM's DH's ex is the mother of children that are being taken care of by you & your DH.

It seems reasonable to contact her. Good luck!!