Let the shenanigans continue!... (btw this is a long one)

Yesterday was DH's birthday. We had dinner reservations for few friends and family members at a local restaurant patio. This is how is all starts. SS10 in the early afternoon called DH because he wants something, go figure the usual. DH explains there's no time to go do that for him today, we are working and also we are going to dinner... I can tell SS throwing a fit and prying him with questions, cause DH responses are- "No SS there is no time for us to go there, I'm working and have dinner with grandma (MIL) and explains other family, we'll do another time!" Also, SS must of asked if he can get out of coming yesterday because DH responded with a firm voice (very rare, lol) "NO! You can't stay by your moms it's my day to have you and your coming, that's final!!!" I stay quiet and don't say a word, as much as I want to add commentary I stay quiet. His kid his problem. 
 

Pick up SS, as usual, looks like shit, dirty clothes he wore for past two day, yesterday being day 3. DH says you didn't change??  All I can think of is, why you asking him that? This kid doesn't care if he wore the same clothes and underwear for a week!!! You should be addressing BM, shes the other parent in his life!! Nevertheless, I stay quiet. SS talk so quietly and it always irks DH because he can't hear him, shoot neither can I, but idc. He raises his voice to SS "IM TALKING TO YOU, YOU NEED TO SPEAK UP I CANT HEAR YOUR MUMBLING!!" SS golden responses is always the same " I don't know." DH is quiet and I can see the frustration in his face. Lol, to me it's funny as hell cause he just lets it all go by, doesn't say a word. Me, on the other hand I would be having a serious conversation with "said" child about his hygiene and contacting BM about why she isn't parenting their kid and making him change or shower or anything. But, who am I to say anything (sarcasm at its best).

We get home, kind of rushing at this point cause reservations aren't at 7 and it 5:15. I have to shower and get ready, DH does, and my DD just got home an hour earlier and she is to get ready before we get there. Routine is we get home let dogs out feed them and get ready so we can leave. As soon as we get home SS immediately goes inside so he can lay up on couch and be on his phone. No, no, no SS you don't get out of helping with the dogs. We all have something to do before we all get ready. I immediately told SS, "sorry bud, you need to help letting the dogs out, don't get comfy on that couch, and I don't want to hear huffing or puffing or attitude!" Of course, he stomps away, runs outside and goes straight to DH, tells him something and the DH comes in and he said to me "what did you tell SS he's upset and crying?" (This is SS way of getting out of doing anything, he cries and get emotional to the point where he gets out of it cause he needs to "calm down")  I'm like are you serious? (And I'm chuckling because how fucking spoiled is this kid)?! I responded " I told SS he needs to help letting the dogs out and to not get comfy on the couch because we are all trying to do things before we get ready to go! Then he got up and ran outside and obviously telling on me to you because it's sooooo rough for him to help out!" DH didn't say anything goes right outside where SS is sulking. Now this is where I'm dying of laughter, I'm looking out the window I see DH saying something, his body language is showing frustration, I see hands waving around and pointing to the house pointing to the dogs pen area and I see him pointing at SS and shrugging shoulders... Is DH actually yelling at him? Say it ain't so? Lol... They both proceed to the house SS in tow and he's crying. All I'm thinking is, well guess I'll be letting the dogs out cause he's gonna let him eat away with it again. I'm already starting to feel irritated because it's prolonging me on taking a shower to get ready. BUT... there's a BUT, DH walks in and tell SS "Get over there and grab one of the dogs and let them outside now! I'm done with the crying antics and the task is so very easy! All you do is sit around all day and all night playing games or on your phone, it's not gonna hurt you to do a little something and for that these are your dogs and you never help with them AT ALL!! Now get your ass over there and help for once in your life!!!" With that being said I was floored and he did what he was told but was crying the whole time! Lol 

Meanwhile, we get to the restaurant, SS sits down and DH sits next to his brother and then me but SS is so uncomfortable because he's not near DH, he keeps staring at him like a lost puppy dog as to why he can't sit near DH. Mind you this is SS and DH family. DH mother, grandparents, brother, aunt and cousin. So it's not like he's around total strangers. SS barely says hello to anyone, sits at the chair sulking like a miserable child cause he has nothing to do (DH took his phone away) vs acting like a normal 10 year old who can talk to his family and be social, this child has no clue how to do that anymore (I guess). Everyone asking what's wrong with him and why he's sooo miserable looking. They are trying to talk to him and ask how he's doing, normal family talk. Even SS uncle trying to play around with him, yet, all he looks like is if he's bothered and bored! At this point everyone ignored him, I myself walked away and moved to another chair cause I don't want to be next to a ungrateful brat. My own daughter gets along with his family and conversates and has a great time with his family. That should tell you something on how a child's raised, you think she would feel more shy because it's not her family (meaning my side of the family) but nope, she's completely comfortable and everyone's enjoying her company and we are having a great time at the restaurant patio. This is where it gets better, SS decides to put his head down at the dinner table... I for one wanting to say something, but nope- not my kid and I sure hell wouldn't be nice about it if I did say something. DH's grandmother belts out and say "SS!!? Pick your head up off the table! What's wrong with you? Where are your manners? You don't do that at the dinner table!" Now after she says that MIL agrees and tell SS to go by her. He gets up and MIL says "what's wrong? Why are you acting like this? You been acting like this for a while what's the problem?" SS responds ," I'm bored! Can I use your phone?" MIL "bored? You're here with your family, we are talking to you and trying to have fun and you just don't want to. And no, you can't use my phone. Where is yours?" SS, "it's dead and dad says no phones today." MIL " well if dad says no phones that because he wants you to actually enjoy being out without a phone to your face. Here sit by me, you'll be fine. But don't put your head on the table that's bad manners and I don't wanna see you or know you do that anywhere! Not even at home with mom or dad!" After that I just stop paying attention. This kid is at a point that he doesn't even enjoy life with his own family. The very family who spoils him but still have some common sense to see his bullshit antics and that he's got zero social skills now. Even the grandmother ask me if he goes outside and plays around or anything outside of his phone? I told her no, I don't even get involved anymore because I get treated like I can't say anything and when I do nothing happens he just gets to do whatever he wants. DH'a grandmother did like that. She proceeds to pull DH to the side and tell him that SS has a issue, he was never like that before and now all of "sudden" he acts like he can't speak to no one and show respect, nonetheless have a good time. Also, relating to DH why is it that you don't allow your wife to assist with parenting roles when it comes to him? She mentioned that she see my daughter and she's outgoing and and well rounded with manners and respect, that my DD walks in and says hello to everyone and ask how everyone is and can be social with all of us, but her own grandchild acts like they are complete strangers!!!? She was really going in on DH. I mean I can hear her telling him he needs to step up and act like a father and not a friend, set rules for SS, get him out there and help and show him what it's like to be responsible and keep him off his phone and games (but limit it) stop allowing SS to run everything. He 10 not 3-4. Let your wife engage in her role as another adult and parent, she's not hurting him, as a matter of fact she's the mother and woman of the house, she is the rock that makes your home peaceful and caring and outgoing. SS maybe be your only child but he's not a baby he's a growing boy and he needs guidance and by allowing your wife to be apart of that you'll see change and how your son will grow and respect you both!!! At this point he doesn't respect you, or her cause you don't allow her to be firm with him when it's needed. He can't keep getting away with nonsense." 
I DIDNT even want to hear what SH responses were because I'm sure it's excuses beyond excuses. I'm just glad someone superior in his life told him the same shit I would tell him, and she doesn't get clapped back from him. 
 

I tell you the night was just amazing when I didn't have to deal with SS and I was around completely understandable adults. 
 

sorry it was long- but I'll post again soon. Same bat time and same bat channel! Lolol