I'm a list person
BM has completely stressed me out and she's not even contacted DH in a few. I called SS PCP and apparently he has been all over his home town when it comes to doctors. So now we are going to have to send custody paperwork to every single pediatrician in his home town just to find out if he was a patient there. So I started a list. This list has morphed into another list of every dept I need to contact: vital records, SS, DHS. That list morphed into a list for DH of things he needs to do to get everything straightened out. That list morphed into all the documents we need to request per dept. There will probably be more lists to come.
I am super stressed right now. I think I need a staycation with just myself. How do you keep everything organized once you win custody to make sure everything is done?
I am pleased to note I was able to cross the vital records off of my list yesterday.
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I'm not sure if SS has any
I'm not sure if SS has any major medical problems? But it seems like you could just start fresh once he's with you? Just make him an appointment with the pediatrcian that you want him to go to and have them do a physical. and go from there? I know you are trying your best to dot your i's and cross your t's BUT trust me, I know from work experience, there are A LOT of people out there who take their kids from one Dr. to another and can't be bothered to get records from old Dr.'s etc. and it's certainly nothing new to Dr.'s... sure they see it all the time.
He has been diagnosed with
He has been diagnosed with Autism. I know the PCP and the place where he got the diagnosis from. I am hoping that's enough. That's good to know. My kids have only ever been to one doctor so I was stressing out big time over that.
also not sure of his age, but
also not sure of his age, but if he was diagnosed with Autism, the school should have a copy of the findings in their records. They would also have his immunization records. May be easier for you guys to show the school proof that you now have custody and get the information from them? Does he have an IEP?(if he's in school)
Does the school have his shot
Does the school have his shot records?
He is not school age yet. He
He is not school age yet. He is 4.5. DH called his PCP and they told him BM never turned in the info from the Autism diagnosis. They had no clue he had been officially diagnosed. I think they can pull his shot record. In my state, I believe they have a record kept through DHS for everyone. I am hoping at least.
I agree with the PPs
Start fresh with with a new pediatrician. Ask for a full and complete developmental assessment with a developmental pediatrician. Explain that BM was abusive and doctor shopping. Then see what you're really dealing with.
There should be badges for step-parents
I also got this badge... try to figure out when the kids saw doctors and for WHAT???? At least I had the roadmap of insurance claims since they were on my plan. But, I found bills from prior to that that BM had just ignored and didn't pay. Love paying penalties on top of the FULL bill even when BM is supposed to pay half of these costs. But, sometimes it's just easier to pay than fight with her when she didn't have money to pay anyway.
I have sent off a request
I have sent off a request where he is supposed to have gotten the diagnosis today. I am just waiting on them now. We are taking him to the pediatrician our kids already see. I have my doubts if he is autistic. I think he is just severely delayed and he had a hearing problem when he was born. But we just have to follow the process of getting him up to speed and then having him retested for it. He has an appointment tomorrow to get evaluated for therapy which we already know he will need.