Steps V/S Bios Hanging out in your/DH's bed
I've noticed many SM's don't want their SKids in their bed. I'm not any different, it bugs me when I can't go into my room and change into my PJ's or when I have to worry that my "unmentionables" might be visible etc... But is it different when they are your BioKids? I still love to have BS snuggle with us sometimes, but he's only 15 months. I just can't imagine how I'm going to feel about him in our bed in 5, 10, or 15 years. Is it an age issue? Does gender make a difference? BD is due in early March.
I ask because I often struggle within myself as to weather or not I'm treating the SKids fairly. I don't want to be a bitch about having kids in the bed now (SS13, SD14) and then not caring about BS and BD when they're older. The SKids are not in our room very often, so it's not a constant issue, and it's usually just SS playing video games with DH. I've never really even mentioned it to DH.
Just curious on everyone's perspective
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Before I moved in, both of my
Before I moved in, both of my SS would sleep with my DH. They were all good with it. When I stayed on the weekend, we'd all sleep in this giant bed. When we married and I moved in, I needed to change that and I'm sure I made everyone else unhappy in doing so. I can't be waking up every 20 minutes from a twisty sleeper when I am working the next day. The weekends were different, but all of us in there fizzled out.
We've been married three years and the few times I've gone out of town, I've assumed the boys would sleep in our bed, but they don't.
I ask them to stay out of our room. They go in there every once in a while if the other restroom is occupied. I like that being OUR room and I like having a kid-free zone in the house.
I feel a bit selfish saying so, but I like the little sanctuary.