Can breathe a little easy
Well, the kids' visitation with their bio-mom is finally over. Thank God we only have to put up with her for 18 days/year! These were the longest days of my life. Every day, my stomach stayed in knots wondering if the kids were fed well, clean, and safe. In the 18 days, she destroyed the kids' cell phone and didn't keep them clean. My in-laws picked up with kids from her and they both had heads full of lice. I'm not trying to sounds like being a parent is easy, but WTF?! How hard is it to just do the basic care of 2 kids for 18 days?! That's it!! Haven't heard any updates from Texas on the child abuse case on their bio-mom and her boyfriend. I know these things can be long processes, but it's driving me crazy not knowing what is going on. I just keep praying that the conviction finally comes and we never have to deal with her and her mess of a life ever again. It's just a matter of time. There is soo much evidence that goes against her and she has very, very little going for her. She was supposed to get the children last Spring Break and, of course, was a no show. We later found out that she was too busy partying and getting high that week. Makes you wonder why (and how) some people have kids in the first place...
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Yeah, AND SHE ADMITTED TO THE
Yeah, AND SHE ADMITTED TO THE ABUSE!!! She justified her locking them in closets over night and holding them down while her b/f hit them! They were only 1 & 2 years old when this happened, too... Just babies.. And she gets upset when they don't call her mom.. She has never been their mom. It turns your stomach to see how the justice system works for children in custody cases. Their bio-father (my husband) is a federal agent with an outstanding record, former military with an amazing military history, he makes 6 figures a year and provides for the kids everything their hearts' desire. Their bio-mom got kicked out of the military, lives with the abusive b/f who, at the sound of his name the kids wet themselves, and works part time at a toy store. She doesn't even pay half of what the state requires for child support of 2 children!
The million dollar question that everyone asks is, why is she still in the picture?! My in-laws think she only sticks around to upset and frustrate my husband. No one is convinced that she has any love for these kids. Her own parents, the kids biological grandparents, have nothing to do with the kids. Since I have been in the picture (since they were 1 & 2, they are 5 & 6 now), not one phone call, not one birthday card, not one Christmas present. I mentioned something to the BM last year about it, and I guess she forced her parents to send something. They sent crap from a dollar store and a Christmas card with the kids name spelled wrong!!! I threw the card away right when I opened it. What am I supposed to say?! "Oh, hey guys, here's a Christmas card from the grandparents who ignore your existence AND yes, they don't know your names" Jeez...
It blows my mind... These kids are incredible kids.. They never deserved the mother they were given.. I'm just blessed to have them in my life full-time and I know every day they are with my husband and I, they are raised right and safe. They know who their 'real' mother is, who takes care of them and teaches them, and that has always been me.