I'm new to this website but I'm loving it so far and all the support. Everywhere you get crapped on for being annoyed by your partners ex and kids.

Anyway, my DH has a crazy ex who is still very much hooked on him even though they split 3 yrs ago and he is now married to me. They have 2 boys together, 8 & 4. It was REALLY bad when we first started dating. She somehow got my number and use to send me 50, literally, txt a day and call somewhere between 10-20. And that was good compared to what my DH got. It got so bad, I had to have my number changed and he'd have to turn his phone off. She called and ask him why over and over again. I really thought what the hell have I gotten into. She didnt know where I lived but she knew I lived in a certian area so she drove around one day for hrs until she saw his truck parked at the end of the street and than searched for my car parked out back. And she banged on my door and accused him of cheating. Mind you they had been split for over 6 mos and he moved out AS soon as they split. I couldnt help but laugh in her face that day. She then would randomly drive by the house. I never understood the purpose of that. She was 30 at the time...seriously, thats crap 16 yr olds do!!

Anyway, we moved and purchased our own house in a different area and didnt tell her we lived b/c we didnt want our cars to be messed with or our house. She somehow found out and we again caught her driving by our house. My DH has afib and was hospitalized (was very scary). Well she apparently found out from his mother and then her mother called his mother and said that she was SO upset and torn over him being in the ER. It really bothered me b/c we were engaged at this point and he was no longer her concern. Yes for the children but her concerns were expressed from her own personal feelings. Than we got married and she freaked out. She called him and said he lost his parental rights b/c he left the family. He AGAIN had to tell her that he left her NOT his children. She will get crazy and say "go kiss your bitch".

Now I was previously married as well. My ex cheated on me and than we tried to make it work but trust was broken and unrepairable among other issues. After we split, he moved on and got a serious g/f before me. Yes it hurt but I never made comments to him b/c I didnt want to be with someone who didnt want to be with me. And thats what I dont get about DH's ex-wife...he has clearly shown her he DOESNT want her, so why is she still hung up on him! I guess my standards are just higher and I think better for myself.

I've tried being nice to her and saying hi to her and she snears at me so I no longer do so. When we got to SS's football games, we stand in one spot and she will stand close to us but slightly behind us and just snear at us. Seriously, you are there for your son not to be a bitter hag.