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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 7:13pm

Mine was in a MUCH different context but I also wanted to attempt to take back my home.

Precious snowflake has been shunning her dad for quite a while now. This year I think she has only spent the night at our house 5 or six times. She has refused visitation more than she has exercised it and yet she still has a dedicated room that is personalized for her. This is the room that back in my naive days seemed so fun to decorate for a little girl. I really tried to make it warm and welcoming for her and spent a lot of time and money that would have been better spent flushed down the toilet. Needless to say, after I learned how ridiculous it is to attempt niceties with skids, I get a little rageful whenever I walk past that room.

I wanted to take it all back. Every nice thing I ever did for that girl burns in my brain as one huge regret. There are things I can't take back but the room....it's mine. The furnishings and bedding don't match my original concept for the room. I put all the original decor in storage and opted to make it a fun place for a young girl. Well all that cute girly stuff will not go to waste. I have another child in my life who loves that room. I'm giving the contents of it to her. This girl is polite, grateful, friendly, cheerful, and acts excited to see me when I visit her mother. She is the type of girl who deserved my efforts.

Sorry DH, your daughter is just an asshole. She wants nothing to do with you, she wants nothing to do with me, she is her mother's daughter through and through. She does not deserve a Damn thing from you even though you keep trying. I am done even if you aren't. She doesn't exist to me.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 7:38pm

If I were you I would think "Did I try to make her welcome?" YES! "Did I give her her own space?" YES! So it wasn't a wasted effort but ammunition for the future when the ungrateful girlchild says you never did anything for her. At which time you show her deluded addle brained father "Exhibit A, B and C (photos and bills of sale for accessories). I refuse to have shrine rooms for AWOL children who are not on the side of milk cartons."

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Submitted by luchay on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 10:07pm

Smile I did something similar to SD13 a few months ago. I had also done the same as you - decorated a room just for her (well I did ss10's as well, but he's not an ungrateful rude little shit) I've bought her clothes, books, just "stuff" whenever I buy for my own girls.

Never a thanks, never used most of it, just snotty bitchy attitude, ignoring me or calling me names.

So I took back everything except bedding and furniture. All the clothes, books, make-up/ girly stuff. Man that felt good. Like reclaiming a bit of my power - no-one has ever commented - not her, not OH - but she KNOWS Smile

And that feels damn good.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Fri, 05/09/2014 - 6:27am

I agree, give to someone who will appreciate it.

I did the same after the SS assholes were gone. Moved SD into the bigger room, told her we would decorate it blah blah.

She is a little pig. I work 3 days/12 hour days a week, help watch my grandkids so when a free day happens, I try and do a big project. I've told her many times that if she wants her room painted, she needs to keep it picked up so I can go in and start working without having to spend all day picking it up.

That was 2 years ago and its still not painted. SD cleans like BM. They pile all their shit...including garbage, dirty panties and all in a corner and then cover with a sheet or blanket so its 'Hidden'. I guess she has magic bedding and no one can see the huge mountain in the corner.