Guess which ones are the worst?

If you guessed the skids you win a prize.

My sister's kids are awesome. Despite my obvious biases stemming from relatedness, I know that they are just damn good kids who have their heads screwed on straight and are already aware of the world around them and well on their way towards becoming social justice activists. I'm really proud of them.

DH has always seen the sharp contrast between these kids and his own but there are so many excuses for it. You all know what I'm talking about. Poor poor children of divorce have it SO hard. They have had to go through SO much in their lives. We knew things would be rough when we introduced them to our home. I gave it a shot but I really just gave up on them way too soon. The usual DH nonsense. Skids are precious little snowflakes whose parent's divorce shattered their lives and put them at a disadvantage. :sick: I know this is true to some extent. My nieces and nephews had more stability, encouragement in independent thought and action, a mom who wasn't a sociopath. But come on. DH's suburban pansies don't suffer. Their mom is an entitled whore who has taught them they should also feel entitled to everything they want in life just because they exist. The world always revolved around them and it got worse after their parents divorced.

Comparisons between his kids and my nieces and nephews don't hold any water because he will always be convinced that they haven't been exposed to the "hardships" his kids have been exposed to.

So that made this weekend even more depressing for him. My sister has recently taken legal guardianship over a couple of kids who grew next door to her and have always been good friends with her kids. These kids have suffered hardships. Every disgusting bm story we have heard in here? These kids lived it. Alcohol, drugs, shady men, police intervention, domestic violence, medical neglect. They lived it. This year cps had been called three times, the mother lost three of her kids from a different dad, had two warrants out, was about to get her last remaining kids taken until my sister jumped in and took them in.

I visited my sister this weekend half expecting the kind of hell step parents in this group describe every single day regarding emotionally damaged kids whose mom's are complete pieces of garbage.

I pulled into her driveway and was greeted by these new kids who didn't even know me. The first words out of their mouths were asking me how my trip was and if they could help with my bags. I said, oh no, some of those are really heavy. They grabbed them anyway. They were able to converse with adults in a polite engaged manner and this continued when even more of my family who they had never met showed up. I got to see these kids around adults, other kids, in restaurant settings, in school shopping situations. They didn't act entitled and obnoxious. They actually acted like they felt bad that unrelated adults were going out of their way to get them set up at my sister's house. They can't wait to get jobs so that they can contribute. What? Wow. Not used to this AT ALL.

Ok. So I didn't have to point out the huge elephant in the room. These "troubled" kids are miles ahead of DH's kids on every level. My nieces even asked "what's wrong with your husband's kids? They are so gross. Please don't make us sit at a kid table with them ever again."

Smh. No more excuses dh. Your kids are just assholes. Admit it.

PS. All these kids are the same age give or take a year or two...12 to 14.