I just want DH and SS to LEAVE
I'm just so sick of it all, all the baggage that DH brought into our marriage, SS and his problems, Bm and her crazy ways. If I could just go back I would have never gotten myself into this situation.
Last night DH and I had a big blow out and he told me that I never support him or help him. I started listing all the times I've supported him or helped him, including paying for the lawyer in order to get full custody of SS (biggest mistake I ever made) and after my LONG list I ask him to just name 1 time he's done something for me. Do you know what his answer was?
I got BM to watch SS during the Thanksgiving break so you wouldn't have to- oh my freaking god!
The situation is this, DH is working the day after Thanksgiving and the weekend, I told him that I had plans and would be unable to watch SS. DH was upset because he wasn't sure who he could find to watch SS. I finally got tired of his going on and on and told him that I wasn't a babysitter and did not get married so that I could become one. It finally clicked to him that I wasn't changing my plans to watch SS so he called BM and had her take SS for Thanksgiving and for the weekend.
Now how in the hell is that doing me a favor? He made the assumption that I was watching SS and when he was wrong he did me a favor?
He's an idiot at times
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Yeah, I wouldnt count that
Yeah, I wouldnt count that as a favor. Had YOU changed YOUR plans and watched SS then YOU would have been doing HIM a favor. Perhaps he needs a remedial course in favors.
I have had these same discussions w/dh, how I do all the compromising and stuff, and he doesnt, and how unfair it is.
You have done so much
You have done so much already so the problem with your DH now is since you have been so good hearted about everything he just EXPECTS you to take care of everything. He is taking you for granted. He asked BM to watch HER OWN CHILD FOR THE WEEKEND AFTER THANKSGIVING AND THAT WAS DOING YOU A FAVOR???? Sorry Ms Angie - no disrespect but your husbands a moron! I mean it is so outrageous if you think about it for a second it is funny. Stop doing so much and let your husband be a responsible parent.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE GUYS??
I think YOUR H and MY H were drinking the same
wacky water...
We had almost the SAME BLOWOUT ("you never support
me") last night, but MINE was over his codepndency
on his MOM and 50-something lazy brothers.
They truly are idiots at times; I'm ready to pack
up and get on with it myself. Just letting ya know
I feel your pain, girlfriend!
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt
obviously he had nothing
and had to pull something out of his a** in order to compete with you.lol
Umm, let's see, BM taking care of her son
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
is DH doing something for you?! Girl, I feel for you. I just had a rant myself over the selfish, all about me man I had the incredibly poor judgement to marry. This creep won't even get off his behind long enough to help me clean up my folks roof (just want him to hold the ladder, precious doens't need to exert himself doing any real labor here), when we live in a house that belongs to them, rent free!
Your H sounds like he has the same "it's all about me" thought process my H has-and after 6 months of the crap I've just about had it. Told him to get out today. 'Course then the coward backed down-oh, I love you honey. Let's not fight. I know exactly where SD17 gets her sense of entitlement from-him. They are exactly alike.
Wanna do a Golden Girls thing?
OMG! I can completely relate
HI,
I'm not a member here, but just had to respond to what you've written. My husband and I have only been married for a little over two years.
Lately he's been working a lot more to make ends meet and I've been taking on more and more responsibilities when it comes to caring for our two SD's. He wants to get more custody (he has 50/50 now) and I'm totally scared. Will he expect ME to raise these girls? I want more kids, but now that I'm a biological mother myself, if I knew then what I know now, I NEVER would have married someone who already had an ex, and kids (it was my first marriage with no kids of my own). It's amazing, you, as a SM have to watch what you do so the BM doesn't have a shit fit, and then your husband just expects you to have no problems in raising HIS biological kids. I swear, people just don't know the emotional struggles a SM goes through to keep her own marriage together, appease the ex-wife where appropriate, keep in-laws fixed so they can feel it's "business as usual" ~ aaaaagghhh!! It's enough to drive anyone mad. HOW woman do we do it? Are we just insane??