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50/50 interpretation

MJL2010's picture

Submitted by MJL2010 on Tue, 10/03/2017 - 8:33am

Hi everyone. Do any of you who have 50/50 custody and have more than one kid/skid, have success interpreting "50/50" on CO as you pay for one child's costs and other parent pays for another? In DH's instance, with twins and a despicable BM who makes EVERY SINGLE financial exchange incredibly painful, he is deciding to try to avoid one of them (he or BM) covering full cost at sign-ups, etc....and the other having to pay back, by just having him do one and her do the other. She is of course refusing, citing that she will not have her kids split up like that. (LOL because it wasn't her idea...if he can get her to think it's her idea, maybe she'll come round.) But do any of you interpret your 50/50 CO like this, and completely avoid any financial interaction with your BM or ex?

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nengooseus's picture

Submitted by nengooseus on Tue, 10/03/2017 - 9:49am

Meh. I don't think I'd do that. What if "her" activity was $20 and yours was $200? That's not really equal, and I'd be irritated as the BM or the NCP. I'm not sure there is a way to avoid financial interaction when there's a custodial split.

DH is NCP (36/64 custody share). Medical expenses are split on income and he's not required to reimburse ECs (though he would if BM would talk with him about it...). Even still, DH had to have a reimbursement clause added to his CO. BM would tell him she'd paid for something and then not provide a receipt, so DH didn't want to reimburse. And this would go on for months--to the point she filed a contempt charge!

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 10/04/2017 - 7:57am

I would not do the I pay for one child and you pay for the other child route, these are twins... Bm can decide her twin will do nothing after school saying Daddy does not love you he only pays for your sib...

Go with 50/50 of all expenses, and it's only refunded once receipts in the correct name is presented. Medical expenses, school expenses etc... you settle directly with the medical office or school, not a case of BM pays and claims half the money back from DH..

In today's world I think medical and school will under stand if DH request a bill of his own, 50% of the expense