I had my talk with hubby about backing off with discipline and other issues with ss6. I said I would feed or clothe him and pay bills because it effects our finances but any discipline is his and spending time is his. If something makes me mad I will simply tell DH and he can handle it. My skid knows EXACTLY what he is doing at this house. BM spoils the snot out of him and she wants me gone so skid is more loyal to BM. She truly spoils him and is disneyland mom. No rules or discipline except when she is around us or someone then she acts like a real mom. We have rules like no lying, saying please and thank you, no running in house, keep toys and room picked up, clothes go into dirty clothes or laundry room etc. The usual so that the skid can grow up not being a slob and relying on people. BM does his cleaning up, brushing teeth and putting cream on his skin for his eczema. She left skid at 1.5 yrs old and still treats him like that.

Anyway I have chosen to stay in my room with tv while kid is around and rules/discipline will be only from DH. DH is too happy because he feels like he is in the middle but I truly can't take both BM and skid. They are working together and I feel it's getting worse while he is getting older. DH doesn't deserve any of what skid is doing to him. We don't buy little meaningless toys we buy investments so to speak. Wii, swing sets and those kid of things that he will either never grow out of or it will take yrs for it to happen.

I'm just done and over it and don't want to get a divorce. I hated the visitation at first but now I want the skid to go with BM as much as possible.