My daughter called me today to say that her stepmom's ex has apparently died of a heart attack sometime yesterday. She was upset, not because she knew him or liked him but because she was worried about the kids that he leaves behind him, her step family basically.

It is an awful situation but for the most part that man caused so much pain from what I have been told over the years. He hated people. He esp hated his ex wife because she left him bc she didn't want to live with his constant mental and emotional torture and abuse. Gee go figure!!!

Hoping on some level that this will make my ex wake up a bit and take a look at his own life and how he treats his kids. To be honest, I really think he's prolly just wondering when he can go back home and get out of this uncomfortable situation and how much money is this gonna cost him or is it gonna help him since they don't have to pay child support now. It's a messed up deal.
I feel sorry for this woman bc she seems to be a mouse. She really needs help. But Not my monkeys, not my circus!! Just feeling sorry for those poor kids losing their father.

Also, ha! SD15 and bm rear their ugly heads finally!! Haven't heard much from them in weeks since sd's bday. She will barely call or communicate with her dad at all. He tries but he get's rebuffed. I'm at a loss as to what the little brat's issue it at this point, he gave her a great bday weekend. Guess he didn't buy enough??
Regardless, he's had to switch his visitation around a few times this month. It's been busy, weddings and such. So now bm is basically threatening dh that sd MUST study ALL weekend while she's here. Or what?? She's gonna spank us??

Seriously, I told dh you need to talk to your daughter, yourself, today to figure out what is going on. Just bc bm is ranting at you over the phone and via texts doesn't mean that is what the case really is at all.
SD15 has time to study all the time. She's a freshman in a private school that finally took her after she couldn't get into 3 others. She has a tutor every single day til 5. And she has NO time at all on the weekend..to spend at all with her dad?
That means we are supposed to sit here at home all weekend while the brat sits locked in her bedroom/shrine studying or at least pretending to study????

I don't think so. I've already made plans. I told dh, I'm spending time with friends so you do what you need to do. If sd insists on sitting in the room all weekend "studying" then that's her. I'm work hard all during the week so that I can do some fun things on the weekend.

I tried to explain to dh that it is really about manipulation.

1) she get's a kick out of trying to tell you what to do
2) she get's off on hoping that you won't do what she tells you and then she can lecture you
3) she's not your wife, she's not your anything except the person that popped out your kid, when she does your laundry and cooks for you then she can start lecturing you, until then that's my job!
4) she's hoping to ruin any time you have with your kid by reminding her that she must study all weekend.. and she will continue to text and call her all weekend for updates
4a) bc they have no life

And finally 5) bm has no idea what our lives are like at all. she just assumes bc she sees a few things on fb that she knows us. Or just wishes she did. She'll always be the reject. And I guess that's gotta hurt. Rip off the band aid sweetheart and deal with your kids and hubby of your own!! Stop focusing on what my man needs to be doing. UGH!!!!