Almost 2 months since we have seen or talked to SD13. Her birthday is next week and SO says he doesn't know if he's even going to bother dropping her off a gift.
We get a text from BM today saying that SO should call SD and tell her that if she comes to our house for a weekend, he won't drink and wont smoke and will be nice as pie. That way if she still says that she doesn't want to come after that, then we know she's just making excuses. Or as BM put it, "We will know if its SM, or because she's bored, or because of your rules".
I'm so friggin sick of having to rearrange my life for other people, not just SD.
If I want to have a friggin glass of wine with my dinner I WILL! I'm not going to refrain from it because you have filled your kids head with lies about her father for the last 13 years and now you are sick of her so you want us to take her again! Fuck. That.
This kid needs to learn that she is a KID. She is not the adult. We are not going to bend to her or let her make the rules.
I felt bad about it for a while but now I don't give a shit anymore. Even SO is sick of it. Everything we do is wrong and our whole life has to be re-arranged for a 13 year old kid who thinks she owns the world.
In hindsight, asking him to not drink or smoke is not the issue. The issue is that she is making demands. Sorry honey, if you don't like it at our house then don't come! It's as simple as that.
Its funny how BM is always so against us and thinks we are terrible, but now that she's had to have SD every weekend for the past 2 months now she's suddenly on board and wants to encourage her to come back to our house? I know its not for any other reason other than she cant handle SD and is sick of her. She's told me numerous times that she needs her weekends away from SD, that she can't handle her. Well BM, that's what you get for being a huge bitch and not letting us be involved, or involved on your terms.
Be careful what you wish for! P.s. Your eyebrows are stupid!