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Hotsprings and family outing?

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Submitted by morrginme on Tue, 03/26/2019 - 11:28am

Luckily I'm disengaged from the parenting of SD16 but it still amazes me to see how unaware DH is. It's also hard to see SD or any person go into a dangerous situation when it doesnt have to be that way.

In our state we have hotsprings here and there. Some are ok if they are really out of the way of civilization but others are not the place to go for minors and sometimes even adults. Nudity is common which is fine but teenage girls around that? They also have large amounts of trash, broken glass, incredible amounts of human feces, drugs of all sorts, criminal activity, illegal prolonged camping, and visitors getting harrassed by violent people.

Some of the hotsprings have gotten better from the state handing it over to private entities to manage it. The one SD16 told DH last night she is going to today is not one of them and is actually one of the worst.

SD told DH she is going with her friend and their parents.  What parents would take teenage girls to a hotsprings like that anyway? I can see maybe if you were a family that was very alternative but it would be weird to bring your daughters friend into it. The only real family friendly hotsprings I know of takes all day to get there and is in the middle of the desert. 

Frustrating to sit back and say nothing but oh well. My input wouldnt be wanted anyway so better to just move on with the day, forget about it, and focus on myself.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Tue, 03/26/2019 - 11:40am

You know it... "you can't care more than the parents". If your DH doesn't care, so be it. Certainly sounds like a nasty place to go and it doesn't say much for those parents, but... not your circus, not your monkey. Wink

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Tue, 03/26/2019 - 11:58am

Just let it go. Continue about your day and hope that all goes well, that she's safe, and that she is where she states she will be. After that, release it and go about your merry way.

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Submitted by Harry on Tue, 03/26/2019 - 12:16pm

That you are not taking care of any GK.  If SD had a baby she is on her own.  Out of your house.  What ever happens to her, happens.  That called disengagement.  You will send her a nice card 

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Submitted by morrginme on Wed, 03/27/2019 - 12:38am

I'm not that good at sending cards. Maybe a short text  from an unknown number would do well.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 03/26/2019 - 2:10pm

Your H is a gullible ostrich hamstrung by ego. Hope he likes the taste of blarney, because he sure gets fed it often enough.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Tue, 03/26/2019 - 8:57pm

Well if you’re one of those who like to capitalize on those “I told you so” moments then you can tell your DH “this is not a good idea” and leave them to it. When something goes wrong and SD admits it to your DH, and it almost always does in Steplife, you can just give him that look. 

 

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Submitted by morrginme on Wed, 03/27/2019 - 12:35am

Good point and I saw a good Ted Talk on that exact subect. I only have so many F's to give so why am I wasting some of them on this?

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Submitted by Chmmy on Wed, 03/27/2019 - 6:39am

Maybe a comment like "I hope that is safe". Make DH think about where he is sending his little monkey. While its not your monkey or circus doesn't this affect us SMs when things go wrong. While I dont like SD16 one bit, I wish her well because she is DHs daughter.