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Submitted by newmommy05 on Wed, 10/16/2013 - 12:58pm

SS9 has 6 grandparents (bio and step) from BM and DH's sides. Now that SS has been living with us, I'm finding that BM's mom and stepdad (divorced) are always trying to skype with him or call him, or facebook or email DH about SS. I understand that they miss him and he's 9 hours away at our house now, but I just find their constant (presence) in my house irritating. BM doesn't even call that much (at the most twice a week for a quick call).

How do we set boundaries for these Skype calls? I just hate having to listen to their baby voices when they talk to SS. If they don't hear from SS is a couple of days, they start leaving messages everywhere. They start saying stuff like: I though when he started living with you that we would get skype access to SS. Dh tells them you can call anytime.

Would it be inappropriate to set call times?

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Submitted by Totalybogus on Wed, 04/25/2018 - 12:43pm

I'm a grandparent.  My grandkids are 11, 7 and 1.  My 11 year old grandson facebooks me to read with him.  He gets AR books at school, tells me what they are, I get it from the library and then we read together.  My granddaughter facebooks with me to color.  I enjoy them.  Most of the interactions I have with them are at their initiation.  I don't think this is a bad thing. 

I can understand you being upset if the grandparents are interferring in your daily life, dinner time, chores, homework, bath or family time, but the only reason you give is that you can't stand their voices.   I think you need to look inside yourself and find out what the real reason they bother you is.