Just have to vent :? :? :? :?

Some back story we have SD13 every other week. She is pretty annoying to me because she was just raised weird in my opinion. BM raised all the girls to think that "Dad" should do everything for them, pay for everything, fight all their battles, take care of what ever mess they get into. Now while they are kids sometimes we parents do need to step in and help our children. But SO's kids are content to sit on there ass and do nothing because he should be doing it. This child will announce my blankets and sheets need to be washed, my answer is you know wear the washing machine is. SO will jump up and do it for her he is not teaching her any responsibility. Just like SD23 who is just a mess.

Which leads me to my issue. BM pays for nothing when it comes to SD something a lot of us have in common here. She gets 1700.00 every month in CS and nothing goes to SD's basic needs. We pay for everything or SD doesn't have it. The last issue was shoes we had just bought SD's school clothes and BM was supposed to buy her shoes. BM texts SO the night before school because she was sad that SD didn't have new shoes for school and that she (BM) wasn't able to buy then until next week. Well I don't know what week she was talking about because its now December and SD is having to wear her old shoes from last year. Mind you we bought her like 5 pairs and her foot is the same size. I know because I bought her some boots for Christmas and I measured her foot to make sure I got the right size. So now SO is going on and on about how his daughter is going around in crappy shoes and we need to just buy them for her. Two things aggravate me here we always do this and BM once again pays for nothing and SD has 5 pairs of shoes that are about 10 mos old that she can wear right now. Two pairs of tennis, two boots and one pair of flats. Problem is SD wants new shoes and she keeps asking us for new shoes. So SD just expects us to go and and get her shoes because she wants them. Or she forgets her shoes at BM's house and only has 1 pair at our house. How she gets 4 pairs of shoes over to BM's is beyond me she only has two feet!!

SO wants to just go get her new shoes and be done with it and I am trying to make him see the point that if we keep doing this it is aggravating to me. We pay for 100 percent of SD's needs and BM does nothing. I don't know if I should just let it go and buy the damm shoes and be done with it. I know that will happen because SO can't stand to see his princess in old shoes. Or should I stick to my guns and make SO see that he is enabling BM to keep on with her crappy behavior.

Oh and what pushed me to the edge was SD wants to go to winter formal so SO is telling me I guess you have to take her dress shopping. WTF she has a mother and her mother can take her dress shopping. Why is it automatically on me???? SD has two freaking parents and I am not one of them. This just pissed me off because now it means that we have to shell out more money on top of Christmas so BM can do nothing as usual.