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NOT A GOOD NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Submitted by Nise on Fri, 08/18/2006 - 9:15pm

Okay so maybe I should write a book!!!! If this wasn’t my life I would SWEAR that I was making it up! So Mom B sent a letter in the mail today to my husband talking about how he needs to reimburse her boyfriend for the money that he spent on daughter’s soccer clothes. A little history….if you go over some previous blogs you’ll get the full picture but basically not too long ago my husband and I noticed that the six year old was gaining a lot of weight (mainly because she eats two dinners a lot of the time…she will eat dinner here and then go to her mom’s house and her mother will feed her again b/c she’ll say “I didn’t like what they had at dads” if her mom had something like pizza or will take her to eat fast food…my husband has asked her not to feed her again…to no avail b/c this is how she makes herself look good to daughter “I feed you the stuff you like to eat” the BITCH is SICK!!!) but I digress….so anywayz…we put her in gymnastics b/c I read that it is one of the best forms of exercise for kids…well we got to the gymnastics center and her mom had called and threatened the owner so in the middle of her very first gymnastics class…that she was enjoying…the owner of the center came and pulled her out of the class b/c her mom was on the phone threatening to sue the center b/c she said daughter was under medical care for a car accident…now mind you…IF THAT WAS TRUE AND IM’ SURE IT WASN’T …that was the first that my husband or myself had heard of it…don’t you think if she is under doctors care for back problems…you might wanna say something to us so she doesn’t overexert herself on our watch??? STUPID!!! But it was a lie b/c LESS THAN A WEEK LATTER sd tells us “my mom is putting me in cheerleading” again..so she can be the parent in the lime light “I put you in activities”…back to tonight…my husbands response was that I’m not reimbursing your boyfriend…no one even consulted me about soccer and when I tried to put her in an activity less than six months ago, you threatened to sue the center…words were exchanged…her boyfriend picks up the phone….little history on the boyfriend…Mom B is his MISTRESS!!!! He has a WIFE and just sees Mom B on the side….so this boyfriend threatened my husband, by this time my husband drops the phone and I pick it up and she tells me “this has nothing to do with you”…HELLO this is MY HUSBAND and your boyfriend who has a WIFE somewhere else just threatened him and your gonna tell me that it has nothing to do with me!!!! So my husband, PISSED, goes running off…I called his mom to try to call him and calm him down and talk some sense into him b/c he would not listen to me…and guess what the end result of it all is…HE IS MAD AT ME!!!!!! Because I called his mother, and his two sisters got involved…well I was just WORRIED about him….I had to call someone…it was all done out of love but I end up being the bad guy!!!! NOT A GOOD NIGHT!!!!!!!

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Submitted by Dawn-Moderator on Fri, 08/18/2006 - 9:22pm

Wow, that does sound like a bad night. Then to have your husband mad at you to top it all off!! I would have been worried about him too if he took off while he was so mad.

I think you're right. Biomom just wants to score all the points with your stepdaughter and be totally in charge. She sounds like a wacko!!

I hear you about writing the book. I have threatened that many times. Ahh, the stories I could tell!

Dawn

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Submitted by skye22 on Mon, 08/21/2006 - 9:10am

Nise, I'm really sorry. I hope things will calm down for you. Sometimes when the stress gets heavy we take it out on the ones we love the most. I know thats not a consulation but try to be patient. I've been in your situation. SOmetimes it feels like your getting it from both sides. I explained it to my husband as a double edged sword. Take it on day at a time Smile

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Submitted by happy on Mon, 08/21/2006 - 10:10am

I cannot believe he was made at you.. What is it with men. For starters I would have gotten into with his ex way on belief. And you really did nothing wrong by calling his mom. What is it with couples / families trying to keep everything a secret.. When everyone knows that there is not one perfect couple, family or PEOPLE for that matter. You were worried and needed to talk to someone. What I do not understand is how can you put that person in your shoes.. I know for myself I always try to put my feet in there shoes.. AND try to get there perspective.
If anyone should be mad it should be you, why? Because he ran out of the house without telling you anything. What are we here for. I tell my husband that all the time.. I am suppose to be your best friend. When something is bothering you I am suppose to be that rock for you.. Am I not right? He has since opened up to me..
Kinda similar situation... My hubby got mad at me because his daughter was saying things to her mom about me who then in turn was calling to ask him or tell she was concerned on why the 15 yr. old hated me so,,, anyways he got pist at me because I went straight to the source his daughter. And then the daughter got pist at her mom for opening her mouth instead of keeping it quiet, then he came to me asking me why I said anything at all.. He was quite angry and then I got angry and said to him you know maybe you should tell that bitch of an ex to keep her mouth shut when your daughter goes to her in confidence.. Not my problem.. The mom jsut wanted to try to get in the way of the wedding because it was like real close. He then came and apologized and stuff.
His EX sounds like a real BITCH if you don't mind me saying so.
Also I agree with you both on the issue of the soccer how can any ex-wife expect the ex-husband to just pay for things without consultation and agreement first. A court case on one of them court shows just about a month ago.. A mom did that to her ex over wedding stuff for there daughter and the judge basically told the mom if he did not agree to pay for that you are out of luck. His money is not yours to play with anymore. YOu gave that right up a long time ago.
Kinda funny and along the same line.
And just so you know it is all your business. SOmeday that lady will have to call you and ask you for something.. It will then be thrown in her face. My hubby's ex is always trying to say its none of my business and I told him straight up, if you think I am going to do laundry, cook dinner and drive and give money to your daughter and stuff and then she will say its none of my business you are out of your mind.. Its my business because I took on responsiblity for your child as well as you. So I will not be a convenience to her..

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Submitted by Nise on Mon, 08/21/2006 - 10:38am

Well he apologized to me for making me upset/taking it out on me and hurting my feelings…although he said that he was not sorry for his reaction b/c he and I handle things differently. He said that he is a man and when someone threatens his family (I later found out that the BF told my husband that he was going to come to our house and break out all our windows and kick the door in…so my husband’s response was if you wanna make this physical, your not gonna come to my house to do it…I’ll meet you on the street) he is gonna react in a way that I wouldn’t (which I like to handle things more rationally…). I still don’t agree with him, I wish he saw things differently, but I can respect where he is coming from in a way…hate to use the comparison to a dog but it is kind of the same in that it is in their nature to protect the house…I don’t know…I guess both of our reactions were out of love in our own way…