BM called BF yesterday to ask if she could borrow some money. Apparently if she didn't make a payment on her car by 10:00 AM today, she loses it. That to me states that she hasn't made a payment in several months. She told BF that she would get her unemployment check this Friday and she could pay him back - which means that she was lying about the part time job she said she had at their last court date.

BM has always been good about paying BF back when she borrows money, so he wasn't worried about loaning it to her. He took the high road and told her he would loan it to her which I am fine with. I told him he needed to ask her how long it was going to take of her sinking like this before she realized she couldn't handle it anymore and needed to get a job.

During the phone call she also said that she thought they both needed to drop their court cases against one another because it was "best for SS". So first she wanted BF to move back in with her because it was "best for SS", then she wanted him to sign his rights away because that was "best for SS", then she wanted to get rid of the visitation schedule and let SS come "whenever he wanted" because it was "best for SS"...every step of the way she has justified her ridiculous wants and actions by saying they are what is "best for SS". If I never hear those three words again out of her I will be happy because obviously she has no concept of what it really means. BF told her that he thought SS living with us was what was best for him because she obviously couldn't afford to take care of him by herself. He said that that started an argument but she didn't gripe too much because she was asking him for money and couldn't really be too argumentative.