More Pre-Vacation Drama from BM
BM called BF this morning and said, among other things, that we were putting our unborn baby in danger by flying. She tried to tell him that there would be problems with me flying while pregnant and it would harm our baby. She told him that our 9 month old would have problems flying. She told him that he didn't care about me or BM or his children, he just cared about his damn vacation and to hell with everyone else. She told him that she gave him permission to take SS to Florida, but she did NOT give him permission to fly him there. BF simply said, "I hate to inform you, but I don't NEED your damn permission," and hung up on her.
BF told me that he didn't mind one bit to let me and MIL and DD fly down to Florida and get checked in, and him and SS catch a later flight if that's what it took to get SS down there on a plane.
Our plans are to pick up SS on Friday night and spend the night at MIL's house (she lives closest to the airport we're using), then catch an early flight Saturday to FL. He's already planning out how he will wait the allotted 30 minutes to pick up SS and if that doesn't happen, he will take me and the baby to MIL's house and then return to BM's house with a deputy and do whatever it takes to get SS for this vacation.
We've been planning this frigging vacation for months and everything has been hunkey-dorey with BM...now that it's down to the wire she pulls all this stupid crap. I want so badly to just call her and say, "You know, I'd really appreciate if you could just stop being such a G__ DAMN BITCH! I really need this fricking vacation and you're putting me at more risk for pregnancy problems with your endless nagging and complaining than any plane ride would! LEAVE US ALONE!!"
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I would say
you need a vacation! Whew! back to back babies! The plane ride is perfectly safe for you and the 2 babies. People do it all the time. Hell people have given birth on planes before!
I have to applaud your DH for saying he will get the deputy involved if she refuses to let SS go. She has no right to dictate your vacation.
Maybe warn her in writing via email that if she refuses to let SS go on Friday, DH will be contacting the sheriffs dept for assistance. It might scare her straight.
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My thought is, does she think that I would just jump on a plane without asking my doctor if it's OK? If I thought for one second that I was putting my child in any danger whatsoever, why would I do that? Not to mention check with the airline so as to have prior knowledge of any laws or protocols that they have regarding flying while pregnant (none, BTW - don't even need a doctor's excuse). What 7-month pregnant woman would travel without doing her homework first?
And also, I would be at way more risk of problems if we were to drive - it's a 14 hour drive to where we're going. Me sitting stationary for 14 hours puts me at risk of blood clots forming in my legs and circulation problems to the fetus, not to mention vericose veins and hemorrhoids! So we'll be FLYING for the safety of me and my child, thank-you-very-much.
And you know, something else I'd like to tell her is that I would thank her to NOT use me and my children as excuses or justification for her immature actions and unnecessary drama. She tried to do this last year, telling my BF that she was just trying to "protect" me and my daughter from the hell that she's had to go through, and then when I delivered saying that he cared more about this baby than he did about her and his son. I let her know in no uncertain terms that she was NOT to bring my child into her mess, unborn or otherwise, that I would not tolerate it and she was off-limits. It has been a year since we had that little conversation but it sounds like it needs to happen again.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Just tell her you are driving
to make her hush then once you have SS do what you want. Call her when ya'll get down there let her know he arrived and she has the cell numbers.
She is just jealous she cannot take her son to do these things and that is her own fault.
She is a nutcase!
There are men out there that do not even take interest in there children and he is a man just trying to take his son on vacation and he is going through hell. I dont get it. These BM's are nuts sometimes.
"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
I took a plane ride at 7.5
I took a plane ride at 7.5 mths pregnant and had a great time... Just a word of caution.. try and get up and move around the cabin a couple of times during the flight.. to head off feet and ankles swelling. I hadnt had a problem my whole pregnancy w/that until I took my flight.. other than that.. I was GREAT!!
Dont listen to that whack job! OH.. and I would so sue her for the price of the airfare on your dh and ss if they dont make that first flight... she agreed way back.. she needs to honor those agreements.
Why doesn't she want SS to fly?!?
How strange. If you were driving, would she object? Or taking a boat? How about walking, is that OK?
What a fruit loop.
She's projecting
Just like she does with everything else that she doesn't like, doesn't trust, or doesn't understand; she doesn't want SS to do it because she wouldn't want to do it herself. She tried for months to convince us that we were horrible people for taking SS to eat chinese food, trying to claim that he "doesn't like chinese food," which isn't true at all, but SHE doesn't like chinese food, so she doesn't think he should eat it either.
I don't think she would have a problem with us driving, that's how we got to Florida last year. Even though statistically it's waaay safer to fly, and I could give a bunch of very good and valid reasons why it is better for our whole family for us to fly (how about the fact that I don't want to hang out in a car with an infant for 14 hours when I could take a plane and get there in 4 hours?)... she must have control over the situation, and since she would never get on a plane, SS shouldn't either.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
What business is it of hers?
Glad BF hung up on her. Just tell him to do it sooner next time. By all means, do not call her! She is trying to ruin your happiness. Don't let her know she is doing it. It will encourage her to do it more.
"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"
Your H has the right idea.
Your H has the right idea. If she trys to keep SS he should go there with a deputy.
Have you and DH ever considered going for custody
of SS?
Oh yeah
He's actually in the process of suing her for full custody right now (has been for about a year but the court dates keep getting continued off to later dates). I don't forsee it ever happening without SS deciding on his own, which I figure will happen when he's 15 or 16 and his Mom won't let him drive or do any of the stuff that he wants to do.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*