On a completely unrelated front, I've been informed that I am arrogant at work. That has me kinda down. But on to the reason why I'm here! BM came and picked up SS to take him to an undisclosed doctor's appointment this morning. When she got back, she said that they had gone to the dentist and everything was fine. SS confirmed that he had been to the dentist. Let's just say that it was pretty obvious that SS didn't go to the dentist. Later this evening, our DCS worker came over. She told us that she was closing the case, but she was sorry that we had to deal with BM day in and day out. She tried to encourage me to take a parenting role and affirmed that I am a parental figure. And she said that she is so sick of hearing from BM - she doesn't see how I've stuck it out for so long. She encouraged us to report BM to DCS if she ever does something dangerous or takes SS out of counseling. I let it be known that SS had a doctor's appointment today which had been shielded under the guise of a dentist visit, but I was pretty sure he was going to see a counselor and BM just lied to us. We told her that BM will never tell us when or where SS is going to counseling. She said that that's not right, and as his father BF has every right to know - as a matter of fact, BM has an obligation to tell him - but since she obviously won't, the lady led us to figure out some "good places to look" to find out for ourselves.
After the DCS lady left, BF sat down with SS and said "You didn't go to the dentist today, did you?"
"No..." SS said.
"Did your Mom tell you to say you went to the dentist?"
"Did you go talk to a guy about your feelings?"
"No, I didn't say anything. I sat there and read my book. My Mom did all the talking," SS said.
BF is just smiling. It won't be long until the therapist realizes that BM needs therapy too...and that he's not really counseling SS, he's just listening to BM's problems. Hopefully soon they tell her she'll need to wait outside so they can hear what SS has to say.
She also called my employer the other night and told him that she would have come into the office to speak to him except for her conflict with me. She told him about how she thought that I had done unethical things to her son, and my boss explained how that was not possible. She told him about how if she ever did bring SS into our facility, she was afraid that I would see him. She confided in him that she was afraid that I would get SS's medical records from our facility. My boss told her that we not only have no medical records on SS, but that if we did and BF had requested them, as his father it is his decision whether he shows me or not; not only that, but any medical records that we might have would tell me absolutely nothing compromising about him or anything that I didn't already know about him, so she shouldn't worry about that.
My question is - why does she continue to hide SS's therapy from BF? Why is she so afraid of me seeing SS's medical records?