You are here

Things I can never say....dear....

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 10:28am

Dear SD:

I realize this was me vomiting...but for safety reasons I've got to edit.

Comments

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 12:33pm

YEP, that's how I feel...wow.....reminder, I'd never say them, but i do think that on ocassions. Sometimes I have good thoughts though...and make lots of efforts My thoughts are not reflective of my actions....

If you had a skid trying to run you over and bully your children, you might understand. AIN'T happening Smile I'll make sure of that. My actions will start matching my thoughts unless she's kept away or gets in line in her place, that of a child-who will respect someones home and authority and people that live in it.

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 10:51am

Yep, I ate a mean bitch pill for bkfst...especially if you hit my kid, call him a 'p***y' and 'f****t snitch' because he's sick of your bullying ways and speaks up. YEP....that's me....mean Smile

alwaysanxious's picture

Submitted by alwaysanxious on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:11am

Your SD15 and my SD would probably hate each other because they are so much alike.

We had to tell her to stop with the hoochie clothes. BUT still everything is tight tight tight. She isn't thin. She's about to bust out of her clothes.
She doesn't like people who don't kiss her ass. I don't kiss her ass.
Her manipulation is so subtle. SO will never see it.
She is so mean to people. She has made fun of the mentally challenged kids who were playing in gym.
She is mean to a lot of her friends, which is why I think she changes friends a lot. After a while, you just don't want to be around it.
She thinks she's smarter than her mom stepdad and everyone in her town. She is condescending to and about others when she talks. Yet the genius got F's last year in 9th grade. She hates that she cant' do it to me. I have a PhD and when she tries to KNOW something, I correct her smart ass. Guess who DOESN'T ask me for help with homework anymore. You want to talk to me like I'm stupid, guess what, I have the actual background to do it back.
She only worries about herself and what she wants. How it affects her.
She too has the white trash highlights. I think its hilarious you brought it up because I haven't been able to say that to ANYONE.

She doesn't know her place in MY HOUSE either. Every time I put her in her place, its so sad for her. I flat out told SO last week that she is being disrespectful and I refuse to say anything anymore because all he does is feel sorry for her and want to protect her instead of defending me. I'm not playing her victim game.

I feel for you. These females need to just go away.

starfish's picture

Submitted by starfish on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:08am

oi2, i'm so proud and touched, you came over to our side with a vengeance.... i'm wondering if the alien pod people came and took over your body??

welcome to my world....has she started stealing from your purse yet? sorry your sd sucks, too!

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:15am

No, not yet, but she has taken my sons ipod before "accidentally"....and she has grabbed my phone numerous times this wknd w/out permission. I just realized yesterday she also has googled youtube videos-which I told her LAST time she was here not to do.
EVERYTHING I tell her not to do she did again this wknd.
And yes, that is why I told him, no more changing/showering in my room or in my closet. My space is MINE, private, ADULT space. She can use the KIDS bathroom and share it with the boys.

What, does she get special priviledges of having my room/bathroom to use because of what? NOT happening Smile

Now that I made myself clear to him about my room....my next step this week will be 'next wknd w're doing our own thing-I don't want her in my home, need a break-don't push me for more details or you'll regret asking'

THE END Smile

the_stepmonster's picture

Submitted by the_stepmonster on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 2:07pm

What is it with these SD's and their obsession with our bathrooms and bedrooms?? I don't get it. It's like SD9 waits until SD11 is in the shower before asking Daddy if she can please please please take a shower in our room because the other one is occupied. Before Daddy can answer I always chime in telling her "You've waited 2 days to take a shower, you can wait another 10 minutes." Then of course once SD11 is out of the shower, there's no more rush to get clean after all. Its like she just wants to invade our space for the sake of knowing she can!

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 2:36pm

I don't know....I don't even know at what point she started taking over my room while visiting...it slowly happened...she or bf puts her bag in my room when they come over ....and she has to use my bathroom/shower. It's an adult spousal status shit. My room is as much hers as mine she thinks-routinely has gone through my closet to play dress up with MY stuff, w/out permission.

At first I tried to make it a bonding thing for us...then I realized she'll go in like she owns my room and it's part hers....NOT EVER AGAIN!

This wknd before telling him this I took her bag out of my room, took her clothes out of my room, and her purse. Put her stuff in the living room. THEN I went to bf and made my very clear point. She can use the kids bathroom, kids, get it...like you sd, you're a KID, not the other woman. UNREAL!!!

alwaysanxious's picture

Submitted by alwaysanxious on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 3:13pm

when either skid comes into my room they get 'the look' i make them completely uncomfortable. They came into our room a few times (I can count on one hand) when we first got it completed (it was attic space). On occasion SO will send one of them up to get something for him. I typically just grab whatever it is and I tell SO, I already brought xyz down so they don't have to go into our room to get it.

once, SD was kneeling on the floor and leaning on our bed. I immediately got into my bed, like this is mine. SO and SD were talking and I was sitting there with a look of why are you in here. To make ME look like an asshole he said "this is AA's space, she doesn't really like anyone up here, its her hideaway"

I told him that was inappropriate to say that about me to her, but at the same time it was true.

Help me's picture

Submitted by Help me on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:07am

It is so nice to know I'm not alone! Reading this was everything I'm not allowed to say out loud.

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:11am

Damn, you all warned me this could happen, i didn't listen.

BUT....lol, as time would tell SD is showing herself.

AA, you're SO right, they DO sound alike and this 10yr old will later be a teen.

I can only pray we have moved out of state by then. We've discussed it, before he started turning into an idiot guilty dad (over the last couple months), before that he honestly probably felt the same way I did about her crap and was ready to get the hell on out of here.

Last night we were watching the movie Orphan...I was reminded of SD lol...and the guy standing up for her against his wife reminded me of all the guilty dads here combined, I was glad to see his ass stabbed by the coniving princess Smile I chuckled at the part that the woman finally kills the psycho girl by kicking her in the face and saying 'i'm not your f'in mommy' Smile

And then as the movie finished I said...gosh I so want to move out of this city like we talked about -he says, where's that coming from, how did that thought come to head right now"....sigh....maybe because in some ways Sd reminds of the chick from Orphan lol (i did not say that).

alwaysanxious's picture

Submitted by alwaysanxious on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:18am

I love the orphan. That part where he put her in the bed with him. :sick: because "mom" was so mean gross. The ending was perfect.

At 14, the uber bitch develops and she will be worse. Get DH under control now or you will vomit daily.

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 12:35pm

YES, that is what I've been thinking-boundaries loud and clear come down NOW before true puberty hits or I will vomit in front of them to make my point.

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 12:59pm

Great vent. Don't you feel better? I would if I was you. Now, go put some consequences in place for SD in your home and stick to them. She will either improve or she will be miserable.

Either way she will get effective parenting when she is in your home.

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 1:34pm

Rags, I do feel better lol-BUT...to be honest I'm still having all these thoughts now 3 days later, I woke up mad this am w/all these thoughts battling in my head.

You know, the solution though is her not coming over....at least i'll have to go this route for the next month or two until I can recover from the last fiasco. I think we need to do seperate wknds for a while. Plus when she doesn't come aroudn she feels less 'cocky' in my house. And DAD needs to learn it's a priviledge also and not take things for granted.

alwaysanxious's picture

Submitted by alwaysanxious on Thu, 10/27/2011 - 11:04am

YEP, you and I really are in a similar situation. I'm back to disengaging this weekend because of SD15s attitude and SO snuck a movie to her behind my back after we agreed they wouldn't watch movies with explicit sex.

If he wanted to change his mind, we could talk about it, not sneak behind AA. This time I told him I'm giving them some "space" this weekend and that I'm not dealing with her attitude.

He's taking SS to a game on sunday. He says "Oh that will leave you here with your friend". I've made it clear she's on her own that day. *u*k her. And SO, I'm not here to entertain your "little girl" just because that's how you do things.