So bf's ex hasn't let him have his regular access for 6 weeks now and he hadn't seen them at all. Until this the longest he'd ever gone without seeing them since the day they were born was 10 days.

Yesterday he stopped by the babysitters to spend a few minutes with them, to reassure them that the separation was not HIS doing. Ex told them that daddy was 'too sick' to see them, a total lie, she's stopped access to extort more money.

We pulled up and his 7 year old dd had the most awful look on her face. She was NOT happy to see him at all. The anguish on her face was heartbreaking. It was clear that she knew he wasn't supposed to be there and she's got a lot of anger toward him.

They've always had a GREAT relationship. He's an awesome daddy and this is all down to the bullshit their mother is telling them.

Anyway, we're hoping to get access restored soon but we don't know how to deal with the situation. So far he's told the skids that it's a 'mix up' that he's trying to see the judge about so he can sort it out.

I'm of the opinion that he should tell them the truth straight out without calling bm names outright, for example 'What mommy told you is a lie. I am not too sick to see you. Mommy is angry at daddy about something else but it has nothing to do with you. I want to see you and it was not my idea to stop seeing you'

My bf isn't so sure. He wonders if it would be better to make other excuses that wouldn't in any way imply that mommy lied.

What do those of you with more experience think?