Clearly, in my case, DH stands for d*ck head...
I tried to be reasonable with dh last night after the kids had gone to bed and we had some time to decompress from the day. I have been working a lot lately. And by that I mean TWO jobs. I have my day job and then I have addtional work out of my home studio in the evenings and on my "days off" from my first job. I have been pulling the extra time in an effort to pay for dh's $200 an hour attorney so he can maintain somekind of custody of his son. Since horseface bitch devil cunt decided to just turn everyones lives upside down and throw a spoiled tantrum. I tried to tell him that although we received a tax return that does not mean he can spend willy-nilly. Which he has a tendency too. He already went and blew $250 on a tool, that he will most likely use once a year, when he told me originally it would be $90. But of course, on entering the store, he decided to upgrade to the "better" model. Well why not? I mean Princess Mofo is made of money. She doesn't need to squirrel it away for emergencies or dark days or perhaps have it on hand for her Own children who receive NO support from their deadbeat bio-father. But I digress... He also purchased ss another $100 tablet. SS broke the one he had gotten for Christmas by dropping it when getting out of the car after having it a week. And then he was so upset we "had" to buy him another because it just wasn't "fair". No, what wasn't fair was I made strict rules for the kids, all of them, regarding their tablets. They do not leave the house, unless in their original box and are not to be removed until you reach your destination, for this very reason. But of course, silly me, dick head... I mean dh knows better. And ss6 is just so "responsible" that it will all be "fine" if he does not have to stick to that rule.
Anyway, the gist of this rant is dh began to sulk after I politely reminded him that he needs to reign in his spending. He went quiet and would not talk and or look at me the remainder of the evening so I went to bed. I really don't care. In fact, I'm over trying to help him. And I'm over spending $$$ on this shit. Why doesn't he get another job to pay for the attorney? Why is it left to me to pick up the slack? It's not like he, his family or his son for that matter will ever be satisfied with anything I do. It'll never be enough.
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Desperate finances
Desperate finances immediately. See how much extra spending he does once its his money and not yours
I seriously am thinking about
I seriously am thinking about that. I already have money hidden in a couple accounts and he's spending out of the "house" account. But he just thinks if it's "mine" than it's "ours". His own mother said to my mother last year he can't save money if his life depends on it.
He can't handle money
He can't handle money obviously. So make sure he cannot touch YOUR money.
He may not be intentionally being an SOB but he is using you big time.
you are giving way too much
you are giving way too much in this marriage, hon and now it's time to back track. go back and re-do things, so as to prevent your growing resentment which will kill your marriage. you made a mistake and yes, you are allowed to correct that. what are YOU getting out of this relationship? it can't continue being a one way street. i've had to do the same thing. i've had to turn my dh into a helpless little boy into a man and placed all HIS responsibilities in HIS lap. his mommie and ex wife did absolutely everything for him. it's been a long, drawn out process full of fights and ultimatums (5 years), but my husband loves me and ultimately is doing well. good luck.
Separate finances yesterday.
Separate finances yesterday.
Or suicide, lynn. I don't
Or suicide, lynn. I don't know I haven't committed suicide yet. I am so unbareably depressed. I just don't understand how, yet again, I managed to pick the world's most self-centered manchild to marry? I mean, didn't I learn my lesson the first time with my exh? If it were not for My children and My family I may have just jumped from a high altitude by now. I talk and talk and dh just spins and maniuplates to make me look like the bad guy. I am being unreasonable. Really? I think not.
Split your finances
Split your finances immediately. My DH was the same while our finances were together. I would complain and complain and he did nothing. I finally told him I would never tell him what to spend money on, especially in regards to loser if we split our money. He agreed. It only took a couple of months of him having split finances to realize that 1. he needed to stop spending so much on loser 2. HE had to get another job...Guess which he chose? Yes, 1. It was the best decision I ever made.
I am soooo confused!! Isn’t
I am soooo confused!! Isn’t your Dh the one that works with BM??? I guess I did not realize they are going through a custody battle. Why on earth does he stay there?!?!?
Yea…separate finances ASAP. Everyone is taking advantage of you but you are allowing it hun.
Willow, I can only assume he
Willow, I can only assume he is a ball-less wonder. I guess bm got his balls in the divorce too like everything else. He figures since it's "his" family's business and he was "there first" she should go. Well, it's been five years and she's gotten raise after raise and promotion and she ain't going nowhere. In fact, she now outearns him. He's stupid.