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Place your bets, Step-talkers... The Summertime Blues Part Deux

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 10:57am

The paperwork is just sitting here, as it has for days. Dh checked to see if our district would allow ss to attend summer camp (the one my bios will be attending through their school for the month of June) for two days a week. They will since ss is a 50/50 resident here, so problem solved... Or so I thought.

The deadline is April 7th. He's had the paperwork since last Saturday. All he has to do is fill it out and drop it off. Has he? No. Why? Because he is stalling deliberately. It's a shell game. If he conveniently forgets and misses the deadline he avoids having to tell twat waffle that he's signed up ss for something and risk her rabid, venom spewing response. Even though he has free reign on his time to make these decisions via his parenting plan. His balls are clearly still in her shoddy Coach knockoff.

Also, if he doesn't get it turned in on time then I will be stuck watching ss, on my time, the entire summer. It's abundantly clear to me, as I'm not a blithering moron, that this is dh's intention. And all the hemming and hawing and pretending to understand me last week was his facade like way of appeasing me. Yes, keep Mofo happy temporarily and then pull the rug out from under her.

So, here's how I see it:

1) Dh is scared of twat waffle still and will not utilize his parenting plan even though he has a legal right to.

2) Nobody give two fucks about what I want or need. It's just expected I will pull the dead weight, again.

3) Dh has no respect for me, my time, my mental health, etc.

4) My feelings and my words mean nothing.

5) It is better to keep cuntcakes happy then to attempt to make things right with me.

6) Dh will not fill out this paperwork, I will watch ss all summer, and I'll have plenty to blog about this summer.

I seriously fucking give up.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:05am

Honestly, Scubed I don't see what choice I'm going to have? Dh will claim he can't afford a sitter. He has vacation but if he uses it to watch ss, he will have nothing for our vacation. If he does use his vacation, and then I decide to still take one with my bios without him, he will act all butt hurt and go on the warpath. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I can't win. I might as well give the fuck up. They win, dh and twat waffle, they always fucking win.

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Submitted by justthegirlfriend13 on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:56am

Is ~ 1 week of vacation a year worth having your entire summer ruined? We're talking a difference of approx. 2 1/2 months here that you would need to put up with an skid versus loosing about a weeks worth of vacation with DH.

I would also let him get butthurt about you going on vacation alone. He would have had options in that case to arrange for proper sitters or camp registration and chose to not do it, so that's on him!

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 12:52pm

Give him a list of local baby sitters that he can leave SS with during the summer. When he asks you "what is this list of names for" tell him "since you aren't signing SS up for camp then you'll need someone to watch him during the summer". Make it abundantly clear you are not an option and neither is SS staying home alone. It's summer camp or babysitters.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:03am

7.) you will fill out this paperwork and turn it in FOR DH since that is the wonderful, helping, caring wife that you are. }:)

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Submitted by Oh Margie on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:09am

Normally I would say completely disengage from all of it and let the chips fall where they may, but in this case, for your own mental health, I would make one last effort. Wait until he's chilling out in front of the tv, hand him the paperwork and tell him calmly "Fill it out or don't but, for the last time, I AM NOT AN OPTION THIS SUMMER. Know it. Believe it. Get your plan B ready".

And then you are out. Done. Finished.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:11am

Oh yes, I would be so helpful and fill that damn paperwork out myself and send it in.

No effing way would I be stuck watching him all summer.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:18am

Why not fill out the forms yourself and not tell him? And yes, I would sign his name on the damn form.
Let him think the deadline has passed. The night before camp starts, let the kid and his dad know that he will needs to ready to leave at X time.

If your husband freaks, let the kid know he needs to up and dressed when dad get's ready because he's going to work with his father.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:26am

I just texted him and told him if he didn't want to fill it out, that I understood. I then told him he needed to put in for vacation for those days then. So, fuck him. I shouldn't have to be the only one who has to make hard decisions.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:53am

Thanks, Scubed. Dh's response was, "Are you done fucking fighting with me about stupid shit?!" Because what I want is "stupid shit". I flat out refuse to be taken advantage of this time. It's the freaking principle of the thing.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 12:29pm

Thanks again, Scubed.

And it's not like I said I would NEVER watch ss EVER. I will be watching him on my days off all July and August when I have my own bios. I'm not bitching about that. But I am taking June for myself while bios are in day camp. I plan on improving my golf game, shopping and lunch with the girls or my mom, and basically just trying to relax. I don't think that's too much to ask.

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Submitted by MissElphaba on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 2:40pm

I'm sorry - are you married to my SO? Because I've gotten that text a few times when he doesn't want to have to deal with his hag and I basically give him no alternative.

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Submitted by noway70 on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:53am

Yeah!

And if he does not have money to go on vacation with you and the bios, too bad. He stays home.

Please don't think you have no other options.
You can also send the kid to work with daddy every day if he doesn't have anywhere else to stay. And if DH sneaks out and leaves him, drop him off at DH's work.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:49am

Eight.

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Submitted by justthegirlfriend13 on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 11:53am

I came in late but I reiterate the others that no way in hades would I let him walk all over me and be the built in babysitter! I also don't know the backstory, but I imagine and from what Ive heard from others, he either does this regularly or doesn't treat you well or respect you, your time or your opinions.

I saw that you texted him and told him to make arrangements, just make sure to stick with it! Fill out the paperwork and just take it to him to sign, give him an ultimatum that he either completes the paperwork and puts SS in camp or else he needs to make other arrangements on his own, without your assistance. If for any reason the kid is left with you, the first day he is there, I would just up and leave for the day and tell DH that you did. An 8 year old would not be left alone by himself so DH would have no option at that point to leave work and fix it and fix it for the rest of summer if it continued to happen.

Good luck and stay firm!

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Submitted by princessmofo on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 12:52pm

I do. But unlike most people my "weekend" is actually weekdays. I work weekends a lot. My manager, who is also a step-mom, suggested "scheduling" me on my days off just for the month of June so as to throw a wrench in dh and twat waffle's plan to screw me over.