Oh my! My MIL called and asked if she could go to disney with us!
:jawdrop: We get along very well but we will be gone 9 days stopping at Atlantic beach first for the reunion for sat and sun, then off to disney. Once there my dd and her bf will have a room with 2 of our boys and I can tell you right now MIL will NOT be happy with that. They are paying for that room not me. while I am not that thrilled with the idea of them in the same bed there is nothing I can do as they both are adults and I feel as though if I insist on them not sharing I know my dd well enough she will rebel hard core from me.
That is the main thing I'm worried about if mil goes she will not keep her mouth shut I know her well enough to know.
So my question is how do I help this run smoothly if she comes?? How can I get her to understand they are adults and nothing I say or do will help but it will just start a fight? :?
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Do you want her to come? If
Do you want her to come? If not, can you (or better yet, DH) tell her that you want this to be an immediate family thing...just parents and kids?
I cannot even imagine taking my MIL on vacation with me.
I am not opposed to her
I am not opposed to her coming as I said we get along well. It is just the issue with my dd that I'm worried about. It could be quite fun. But I am just worried about what she will say to my dd about them sharing a room?? My dd is so much like me she would just tell MIL to mind her own business and she would snuggle with her bf even more. That is why i choose not to say anything to her I know her all too well and what she will say and do before she says it or does it.
Now of course if i were paying for their room I would and can say something but my dd was adiment about paying for her own room for this very reason that is how stubborn she is to do what she wants. She is an adult so really nothing I can say or do will get her to not do what she wants.
I just wanted a few ideas on how to handle MIL so it won't end up in WWIII with her and dd.
Well if she's an adult then
Well if she's an adult then there isn't much she can do. As much as we hate it our kids grow up sooner then later so it's just something your MIL will have to understand and keep to herself if she wants to come.
You are very right. i
You are very right. i remember when I was her age and I know myself and I know that she is way too much like me in the way she thinks. That is why I choose not to say anything to her expect to make sure she is protected! She will think I am trying to control her and her life.
She has her own views and
She has her own views and when dh and I were dating he was living with her and he would 'stay' with me sometimes and she kicked him out for that. We were in our late 20's.
I like your idea of letting her know ahead of time to prepare her. I think I'll do that when she brings it up again. That way she will know what to expect before we leave.
I understand her having her
I understand her having her own room with a boyfriend, but I don't think it is right to have your underage kids in there. Can't they stay in a room with Grandma and then everyone is happy? JMHO of course...
Thank you stepaside I will
Thank you stepaside I will remember that. And as far as anyone being in their room, my son which will be 18 so he is not underage and my ss16 will be in there and him being in there was his dads idea not mine. Plus it is our choice onm how we choose to have our sleeping arrangements.
I just wanted one ideas on how to handle my mil not a judgement on what my sleep arrangements are. Thank you ladies for the ideas.
Again that you srepaside. You
Again that you srepaside. You have been great in your advice. I will be using it. A part if me hopes she doesnt come. We get along good for the most part but i think this many days and tge things we will be doung and on tge go as much as will be i dont kbiw uf she can keep up. Thank you so much.