Son had his first counselling session yesterday.
So talked a little about what they talked about like the side walks and how things like red ribbon week and madd came from a tragic event.
But then last night I made him drive to the dollar store only 2 blocks from the house. He got in the expidition and sat there. Dh went out side (I didn't think much of it as I thought son had left) so when dh came in he told me that son was sitting there crying and when he saw dh he told him he couldn't find the dash lights. First why do you need the dash lights second the lights weren't even on and he hadn't started it. Dh told him son you need to just go you have to just do it. Son went and came back seemed to be ok.
I went to the school today to get a paper signed so i stopped to talk to the councilor, she said that he broke down yesterday and he is very kind hearted and all the things and emotions he is going through is normal and thinks he will be ok. She also wanted to know how I was doing and said hse is worried that I might get depressed after I think I don't have to be so strong for son. We talked for about 30 mins. I also told her about the crap bm put son through with the molestation accusation and her trying to get him arrested several times. And how for some reason bm has targeted son. Along with his aspbergers.
Over all is was good and I feel like son is going in the right direction. Thanks everyone.
The 6 yr old and his sister will be in school on monday.
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It is all very hard and
It is all very hard and traumatic. With a strong mama like you he will do fine!!!
I too was in an accident at 17 yrs old. An 11 yr old boy rode his bike out in front of my car as i was turning a corner. His bike went about 30 yards or so up the street and he rolled up on the hood of my car and rolled off. It was very traumatic to me. The kid got a hairline fracture on his ankle. I was hysterical. I had "moments" and bad dreams for a good amount of time. Your son will get thru this and be ok ... it will take some time.
You are doing all the right things. I don't recall off the top of my head anything that "helped" .... just time. I didn't have a supportive parent(s) like your soon does ... he is very lucky
I also told her about the
I also told her about the crap bm put son through with the molestation accusation and her trying to get him arrested several times.
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WOW. I guess I missed this or it was before my time. Thats terrible.
Willow yes it was this
Willow yes it was this happened when son was 11 and 12. It was proven that she was lieing through her teeth. But it is still there ya know? The only reason I stayed was b/c at every turn bm was being shot down by the police and cps and anyone else she tried to through at us. There was never a time when she was believed. I n fact the cps worker was pissed at her and told me I could charge her if i wanted.
See bm was trying to get ss12 (3-4 at the time) to say that son had done blah blah blah to him but when they all talked to him with out bm there or in Councillor he would tell them that he hurt his tummy hurt and only when he was with bm. it came out that he knew it was wrong and that son didn't do anything to him but he was upset that bm was trying to get him to say something that wasn't true. So he became ill when at his moms but not at our house. To a 3-4 year old he didn't get it fully but knew that what bm was saying wasn't true and didn't understand why she was saying it and trying to get him to say it.
So it boiled down to the way ss12 reacted and what he said to everyone involved.
Then when that didn't work bm tried to get son arrested for stealing something from her mom. Son never had access to anything form her mom. Then she tried to get him arrested for battery with ss15. Now ss15 is 3 times bigger then my son and everyone that knows him knows he is a very passive kid and never would do that. Then didn't work she called cps again saying that I let son beat up ss15 and I didn't feed them. on top of that she told ss15 that she will stop at nothing til son is locked up for the rest of his life.
Why she targeted son I do not know. But i can tell you that she has pissed the police in her area and our area off so much so that if she calls one more time she will be arrested herself. She also pissed cps off a long with CS too.
OMG. Not sure I could even
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OMG. Not sure I could even look at the woman after that. Your poor son.
Your son sounds like a great
Your son sounds like a great young man! I am sure it will be hard on everyone for quite some time. Thanks for keeping us updated on everything. ((HUGS))
Willow that is why I have
Willow that is why I have nothing to do with that woman. My dh doesn't blame me either. I can't stand the sight of her. I don't have many words as it is a huge deal for what she put us through. I think that what bm wanted was to get me and my son out of the pic and dh will go back to her with my dd. She thinks my dd is perfect and beautiful. She doesn't have a dd of her own and always wanted one.
My dd was a cheer leader and very popular along with an honor student everything she wanted but I have news for her it was MY raising of her that made her that way! Now even the councilor that she took the boys too when she was saying my son did what he did to her son even told dh that he thinks that she for some reason thought that if she could get rid of me and my son he would go back to her with dd. So I wasn't the only one that thought that.
when ss12 was doing role playing he would always leave me and my son out saying we were not there. She is crazy.
stepmom916 thank you so much
stepmom916 thank you so much that means a lot to me as he has been through so much and to still be holding his head high is amazing. He is also looking into his future with what college he wants to go to. I am just so proud of him with him turning this around.
Wow...it never ceases to
Wow...it never ceases to amaze me that somebody would be willing to ruin the life of a child for their own gain. That is pure evil. Your poor son has been through so much. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I hope he can put this accident behind him. Time is a great healer. {{{hugs to you all}}}
Thanks calgon son is doing
Thanks calgon son is doing better today but the 13 yr old tried to punch him today but the teachers removed him and told him to go back to middle school as he was in the high school. Son said he saw him and tried to avoid him b/c he knew what he wanted. I know his mom and she is a piece of work, she lives right behind us. She is the one that threw a HUGE fit when my dog kept jumping the fence. Instead of being nice or understanding as we were trying to fix the fence each and every time she cussed at us and was a real b!tch.