I was told that the SD18 was told she could not move in (with my in laws) by my MIL. I was shocked really. My MIL is thequeen of enabling. In fact I think she taught all of her children that it is the best way to parent. (My MIL is notorious for allowing her grown children to dump their kids on her. Allow them to live with her while using drugs, the list goes on)
so while I am relieved that No was the answer, I'm waiting to hear if she asks DH. I'm not looking forward to this as my answer will be Hell No, Over My Dead Body!