Here's an update, skids were with BM for Christmas - had a great holiday. They came back on Monday. I disengaged with SD and told her not to ask me for anything anymore - needless to say she still felt compelled to place her order for what she wanted from me for Christmas. I kept my word and did not purchase any gifts for the skids. (I feel bad that SS missed out, but I H would have been real upset and it would be obvious if I bought for SS and not for SD). On Monday SD came in being so nice - she was just sure I filled her order. By midnight she was in shock that I did not have any gifts for her. She even went so far as to sneak and call my mother at midnight to question her if I had left her gifts at my mom's house. Today she is back to her self. I must admit she seems a little more humble (maybe my imagination). She is ignoring me and she was not too happy to see me when I walked in the door from work. (Oh well). Oh yeah - H was so nice an sweet yesterday - he was acting like he does when skids are not here, I guess because SD was being nice (thinking she was getting some gifts). But today he is back to his normal self. He is being short, cold and indifferent - sometimes almost hateful. I knew it wouldn't last - I hate this back and forth, one week I have an H who loves me and appreciates me (when SD is not here) the next week I have to live with a cold indifferent H and a hateful unappreciative SD. Whatever happened to his 'threat' to live at MIL's when he has the skids. My BS and SS keep me going. They are both wonderful loving boys and they are happy to see me when I come home from work - if it weren't for them I think some nights I wouldn't come home!