Graduation
My SD18 graduates tomorrow and the anxiety is overwhelming. So when my husband and I were newly dating, BM had been invited to spend Christmas with my DH's family, because she was then, single and alone. Now 7 years later, here we are. DH and I have been married 2 years and we've been through so much turmoil with BM since. They are court appointed to communicate only through an app now and we haven't heard or seen her since we got married. I am a wreck. DH talked to SD and BM is dating someone but FIL is having surgery and can't attend. It'll just be BM an SS16. I am so worried my inlaws are going to pity her and invite her over. I think that I'd die if I had to suck it up for even 5 mins with her. (She told the baliff at the court that she was scared of me, because of a text exchange, non threatening but disagreeable) Up there with embarassing moments. I kinda feel no matter what, I have to suck it up and deal but is it wrong that I asked DH to arrange with SD to take pics with BM and SS and then come over to us and take pics??
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I just had my SD's graduation
I just had my SD's graduation last weekend. I dreaded it too and had a terrible time! But because of DH not BM. She and I didnt even speak. It was so stupid and akward! We would be standing just a few feet away from each other talkngto DH's family. As of pics - I let them do their own thing and I went up for one pic with Dh and SD. The rest was all other combos of family including DH and BM with SD.
I am just sooo glad he only has one child, that graduation is over, and until she gets married I dont have to deal with this crap again until she gets married.
Just drink wine before you go and you'll be fine!
oh man
I wish I could have a glass! I think I would be really upset if DH took a picture with BM and SD18... BM has a BF that she's not bringing, that we're aware of, probably too soon for this awkward situation. DH did ask SD18 if she could take pics with BM and SS16 and then come over to the part of the stadium we are at to take photos. I started to feel bad about it, like if it weren't for me the day might be less awkward. Still debating if I should go or not.
I woudl say go just so you
I woudl say go just so you like like a united front. But seriously dont care if DH and Bm take some pics with SD. Its what these kids want. Not the adults. Oh and Bm here has a boyfriend but he didnt go.
Your in laws have no business
Your in laws have no business inviting BM to your house.. I am assuming that is where you meant. You need to tell your DH this isn't acceptable.
People need to understand/learn just because people were married and have children doesn't mean they are forever part of the others life!
No she isn't welcome end of story.
I don't think that's asking a lot. "Take pics with BM then we will met at specific spot at school when your done with BM." I would say something like that.
Depending the size of the school etc it could be a sh*t show trying to find skid after graduation. We had SS18s last year and SS17s this year.. you can go to my page and read my graduation blogs lol. We aren't sure yet BM is attending this years yet...