Well, I haven't been able to be on for a while because so much has happened in the 2 weeks. First thing to happen was SD15's stepfather was arrested and charged with a total of 140 counts of various things because of molesting SD15 for several years. Second they notified us of when the preliminary hearing will be. So DH, myself, and SD15's therapist has been working with SD15 to get her ready to testify. But 15 minutes after them notifying us about the hearing today and telling us he was still in jail, their automated system they set up to notify us of any changes in his release, called us and said he was released. Luckily we are over 1000 miles away, but SD15 is still a little worried that he'll show up here.

And of course BM has continued to lie to DH, myself, and SD15 for the past 3 months. Which is nothing new. But I think she finally is starting to believe SD15. Because BM is in the process of divorcing step-dad and because BM has finally told us why her attorney has not drawn up the new order for custody (BM voluntarily gave DH custody of SD15 in August). Which is kind of weird, because the day BM told us the truth about why, BM & I must have been thinking alike that day. Because right before BM contacted me, I was talking to DH and telling him that I was going to offer to have BM e-mail me the modifications she wanted done to the order and have our attorney draw up the new order. And when I logged into my e-mail account to send BM a message, the was one from her asking me to show DH the changes she made to the original order our attorney drawn up and have DH call her later that evening to discuss it and then have our attorney draw up the new one and she would go to his office and sign it. I was in shock....because we have been fighting with her for almost 3 months and I think she was a little embarrassed to tell us the truth on why it hasn't been done. And the truth was, because she couldn't afford to pay her attorney an additional $350 to draw up a new order. So DH & BM worked out the modifications for the Custody Order last night and I e-mailed it to our attorney today and he is in the process of getting it ready. And due to her not being able to afford for her attorney to do the paper work, she wasn't being so unreasonable about the custody anymore. Before she was being very unreasonable....putting things in like, I (SD15's SM) couldn't sign her report cards, take her to doctor appointments, and right now I can't remember the other things. Just being very petty about it. I think in the hopes that either SD15 would decide to go back home to her or that DH would get fed up and send her back. But we didn't give up and SD15 didn't fall for BM'd guilt trips (as I call them) and we will finally have the custody papers signed in our hands in the next couple weeks. On top of making the changes to the custody order, they were discussing visitation. Which is another blog in it's self.

But DH & I are not to worried about him showing up here. We are worried about how we are going to afford to pay all our bills & pay our rent for Nov, get 2 tires on our car before our trip, have money for the trip up & back home, pay our bills & rent in Dec, get the kids Christmas gifts, and also make another trip the week before Christmas to Indianapolis to meet BM half way to drop SD15 off to BM for BM's week at Christmas for visitation. I am very glad that SD15 told us and we could stop him from doing it to some other child....but I wish it was not so close to Christmas. Very stressed about it all right now.