:jawdrop: FSS12 and FSD16 got in an actual fistfight last Friday night apparently and BM didn't discipline either of them over it. Nice.

FDH saw FSD16 last night for weeknight visit. FSS didn't go because he had basketball tryouts at his middle school. Before they even left BM's driveway, FSD is telling FDH all about fight. FDH had no idea anything had happened which we both found really odd as he had been told useless crap about kids constantly over last four or five months from BM yet two of his kids get in an actual physical fight and he never hears a peep from any of them.

FSD likes to henpeck her brother like crazy because it drives her nuts that Mommy treats him like a prince. She went into his room bitching at him to go do his laundry like her mother had been nagging him to do. FSS was in a bad mood over something anyway and told her to get the f*** out. She had pizza sauce on her hand from plate she was holding, WIPES THE SAUCE on his dirty basketball uniform, leaves room to hallway as he is yelling again for her to get out, she turns and leans through curtain over his doorway (because for some godforsaken reason THEY DON'T HAVE A REAL DOOR ON THE ROOM FOR THE KID - eye roll)and snottily informs him she's in hallway not his room. FSS snaps, goes over to her and grabs her shoulders, shoving her back.

Here's the twist: FSD is a first degree Shotokan black belt on her way to testing for second degree this summer. She reacts instinctively she claims and knees him in the abdomen. So a huge fighting match ensues with both of them hollering and shouting and turning the air blue with language. I guess BM went in there to break it up and if I heard correctly from FDH, FSS even swore at HER.

Kicker to this madness is that BM didn't punish EITHER of them. FDH was disgusted with whole thing, had long talk with FSD and told her there was no way in hell he or I would have allowed anything even remotely like that to happen in our household. She agreed and oddly enough seemed to him to be HAPPY about that. He did call her out on being a snot and acting like the mother instead of a sister. She provoked FSS for sure but at same time there was zero cause for physical contact. NONE. He will be having a nice chat with FSS too about this.

She was much more receptive to talking about what's been going on lately and because suddenly she's now pissed at her mother for not disciplining her brother, she is willing to acknowledge she is fighting Mommy's battles and shouldn't be including whatever happens between me and BM. FDH impressed on her that BM likes to play victim and make others defend her even when she is at fault. It is BM's responsibility to handle FSS, NOT FSD. FSD for once didn't argue that point.

I just shook my head and my two older biokids are like, "Whole family's nuts." LOL Heck, my kids talk meanly to each other and I am snapping off on them to be respectful and considerate. It wouldn't even enter into my kids' minds to be physical with each other. Then again, they're more afraid of me than each other