BM's lawyer finally sent us papers to go to court. BM wants full physical and legal custody. BF would continue to have EOW and alternating holidays and such -the basic parenting arrangement. In her affidavit, BM states than BF is still angry about the divorce and refuses to compromise - interpretation refuses to do it her way! BM also states that she needs BF help in defraying the cost of the child care, day care expenses and medical insurance and medical expanses. BM states BF has never contributed to baby's daycare or medical expenses. First of all, she never asked, second of all, she never gave a true cost for daycare or every offered to provide copies of bills. We had to find that out on our own. BM said the daycare provider did not tell her if it was this cost per week or that cost per week and that was in August. BM wants the court to assign a parenting time expeditor to help them work out a parenting time schedule. They all ready have one and its working so far but BF wants joint physical and legal and BM refuses to give on either issue. BF is okay with not having equal time but he wants to consulted about baby's care and such since BM has a history of making bad decisions. BM made it very clear in an email that she feels BF should pay for half of everything in regards to baby and his expenses. Fine, but if he is paying half shouldn't he get half the time too. I will never understand BM and have no desire to try. We are putting together BF's response and including things like BM is hiding part of her income and not being truthful with all of her statements.

This is just nuts. I need some support and encouragement. We have our ducks in a row and we cannot afford an attorney and BF's parents can't afford to borrow him money for one. We will wing it for now and just consult his attorney and ask for advise and if we need to go to trial, so be it we will find the money for an attorney.