My earlier blogs detail how we arrived here, but this is what transpired in the last 24 hours:
I had been told late Sunday night that SS16 had moved out of our home by one of my BS15's friends. I'm a little surprised by this news but will take the wait-and-see approach. I say nothing - not my monkey - just sit quietly.

My husband arrived home Monday after his fishing trip. Husband says nothing Monday or Tuesday. Wednesday night, when SS16 is supposed to be here, he isn't, and still hubby says nothing. I mention to my husband that BM had SS16 change his passwords on his social media and phone so we can no longer monitor them. He expressed frustration but still says nothing.
At this point, I'm thinking "Wow! He's really gone and DH just wants to NOT talk about it. Okay."
So this morning we're having coffee and hubby asks would I like to go out on our boat tonight? I say sure, and he said I'll have to ask SS16 if he has homework.

???

Me: What? So it's not true then, SS16 hasn't moved out?
DH: No, he wanted to go riding last night so he just stayed at his mom's.
Me: Okay, we heard a different story and I thought you didn't want to talk about it.
DH: (not appearing even slightly concerned) He'll be here tonight.

Okay, so I go about my day. Obviously the friend was wrong. Meet up with DH late afternoon. We're chatting in general, I ask him if had any idea what went down when SS16 was at his mom's and he says not yet, he's waiting for SS16 to tell him. He says he called BM on Monday and she said SS16 broke up with his girlfriend and that she was not enforcing any further punishment. Which is stupid, considering the crime, but so is she, so whatever.

He gets a text from SS16. "I have driver training tonight." Okay, we'll see you after. Followed by "Can we talk when I get there?"

And there it is. The hammer drops. I know what's coming.

So hubby says I think I'll take SS16 out and we can talk. He has my blessing. See what you can do.

But that's not what happened. Lying piece of shit SS16 had no intention of talking to his father. He arrived with a friend in his friend's car - and he came only to TELL his dad he was picking up his stuff. Despite texting his dad for the last four days, knowing he was leaving, he led his dad to believe all was perfectly fine. BM was in on the deception, she never said a word. My husband was blindsided. He had no idea what hit him.

They arrive at our house and SS16's friend sits in the running car while SS16 runs up to his room to grab his stuff. My husband is barely containing his emotions - he's clearly furious and very upset.

SS16 cheerily says "Buh-bye" and is basically out the door. Hubby leaves right after for alone time. As soon as the door closes, BS15 says "THAT was a shit move! What the hell? SS16 acted like he didn't even CARE!"

Yep. Big time shit move. My poor husband.