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BM Signed over Temporary Custody..... any experience with this?

spittenfire's picture

Well apparently BM signed over temporary custody to my DH as her safety plan for SS. He is supposed to meet with DFS supervisor at 11 to go over the safety plan. Apparently they are not even allowed overnight visits, not even her dad is. Unfortunatley he has enabled her and allowed and covered for her and ultimatly at the jeapordy of his grandson. Not sure what her stipulations are yet except for she has to aquire and maintain her own place., she is 30 and has not had her own place ever! She has always lived with her parents or a boyfriend. Hell she cant even hold a job for very long. But at least now DSS will be in a stable environment and hopefully we can get his grades back up. Since he has already had to move to a different school and then back a month later we do not want to move him to another school. So DH will be driving 45 min on way to take him to school and picking him up each day, which will be expensive but he really needs the stability right now.

Anyone have any experience with how this process will now work? We have a open case to be tried in July for a modification for custody. My DH is petitioning for sole legal joint physical with him as the primary parent.

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RainbowsAndDaisies's picture

Dh was suddenly given custody by bm when ss was 3. She had taken him from dh ( no CO) five months before that, claimed him on taxes and sued dh for child support. Put ss in low income daycare 9 hours a day and left him with her parents - who he didn't previously know- on weekends. Kid was TRAUMATIZED when we got him back. I agree with other posters that stability starts now. We put ss in church preschool and kept him there for all of preschool. Put him in our school district and he's been there ever since. Haven't let bm jerk him around more than we can help, Same extra curriculars, same people around. After about a year ss was pretty much back to himself. After two years he was doing really well.