so i told dh yesterday that i really feel like his vows to me are dying. i told him the minute sd walked in the door back in august he has pretty much been telling me to deal with it from sd24 being pg to telling me despite my intuition he and sd would not walk dd to or from bus stop and to house cleaning. i told him the only reason i haven't asked for maritial counseling is because it's almost christmas but that becasue the whole "dd being manhandled" could've been avoided if i was REALLY heard the way a wife should be. so he agreed we are having maritial issues and that we need to get sd out so we could work on us and that he didn't see it but does now.

i told him that this was my last straw, sd needs to be out before that baby is born.

so i get home from class last night, all is good, until we go to bed-sd still up, living room light on, and reading her book-again light glaring through the bedroom door-i was too tired to care, apparently dh didn't give a damn and told me she had fries in the oven. i'm like WTF!? it's freaking midnight! dh didn't seem to mnd-until he got up this morning and saw the dirty dishes in the kitchen after he JUST cleaned it ALL up the night before (why he didn't make HER is beyond me-i guess cause he too like me have worked too hard for a clean house and refuse to live in bugs?). so i told him ok so when will we have this talk with sd? i told him that after this talk, if we have to ask her to do 1 more thing around the house-from sweeping, mopping, vacuming etc she is OUT and off to women's center immediately and that she has til mar1 to find another avenue-from school i brought home a flier that gives crisis help and will be handing it to her when we tell her she needs to get out.