SS14 returns from his visit with BM. He stayed at BM's girlfriend's home, just as he has the past two years. (Read previous blogs outlining BM's recent breakdowns where she professed she gave up and will give DH full custody because she's homeless - apparently her GF had kicked her out for her infedelity - , blah, blah, blah)

DH says that BM is always drama and that her and the GF ALWAYS break up and that BM would always come to him in the past when they broke up, but now that I've been around she hasn't tried that one - except for her other breakdown a few weeks ago where she broke the RO, calling DH crying saying she misses him and then texting him she wanted to Fu!@.

But that's not what this blog is about...

We pick up SS. Weekend was fine and fun. BM took him to spend all of his bday money. He is happy. He bought himself another pair of shoes - even though he got two pairs already for his bday. I remind him that he won't have money for spring break...

DH asks him if he spoke with BM about football.

He says, "yes. bm wants me to play and says she'll take me."

Me: oh, that's so nice. She's going to take you and pick you up Mon - Sat during her 6 weeks with you during summer? That's great! (Said sarcastically because I know that BM would not do this. NOt only does she live an hour away, but she complains about "gas money" and has not attended a single one of SS's events/plays/games/teacher conferences / etc.

SS: oh, no. she said she could maybe meet you halfway on Saturdays or something.

Me: hmm... well what about the other 5 days of practice each week?

SS: I didn't know there was practice every day. (Um hello SS? We've told you over and over that football is a huge commitment and will take up your entire summer)

DH: Well, you better get it straightened out with her when you talk with her tomorrow night. If she's going to let you play, she'll need to get you there and back during her time with you this summer.

SS: Ok, well, she says she wants me to play.

Me: That's great. Just be sure she's clear that that means she needs to take you and pick you up 6 days a week during her time with you. If she's not able to do that, then you're not going to be able to play.

So, my point here is that

1) My SS truly is an idiot. He seriously thinks the high school football team is going to practice on Saturdays only all summer long.

2) BM seems to think that even though it's her parenting time that she can get away with taking him halfway - and this is with her under the impression that it is only on Saturdays!...um. no. But another nice try in trying to blame this on DH for YOU not being responsible for YOUR son.

Still going to let SS work through this whole thing with BM on his own. DH and I are not getting involved. We told him if his mom won't agree, then that's that.