well... i finally told SO that when SD4 is there I dont feel like a "family" I feel as tho Im the 3rd wheel. He dont make her listen most of the time and he bitched about sittin at the table like a family... but then gets mad at me if i wanna go see a friend for a few hours bc he thought we would all spend time together.. like a "family". I think we have 2 different meanings of the word "family"