$ always causes a problem
SS got pinkeye. BM took him to doctor, informed DH it's $XX. Then to the pharmacy, and then called to insist DH call and pay the bill at the pharmacy - $XXX. I don't know what exactly was said or went on, but DH was working, didn't get home til 11pm and is super busy with a deadline for shipping his stuff today and apparently didn't have the time to call to pay. Why can't she just pay for the medicine and DH will pay her back?? I'm wondering if she let SS go without medicine until DH can pay... jeez, I can just imagine the earful the kids would have gotten about their father!! It's not like we don't pay her back, it's not like we're not fully prepared to cover 100% of the medical costs when she refuses to pay her half, but that money is not going to come at the time of service, it just can't always work like that, she's supposed to be able to handle these things.
God, she had NO idea of how to manage money, that pisses me off to no end!!! This is a woman who coerced DH to pay off her share of the divorce costs, because the $10 a month at 0% interest payment plan that she got was too annoying to have to handle every month, grrrrrr! And she went to college to study business, jeez.
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It's maddening... that's how
It's maddening... that's how our BM is... can't save a penny to save her life so she is ALWAYS broke. ALWAYS has her tax return spent before it even comes basically having to pay people back that she has borrowed from all year long. Thank God DH is NOT one of those people, when he and I got together I put my foot down and said no more... DH agreed and he will buy SS clothes, shoes, necessities if they are needed but will NEVER give BM money anymore for car repairs, gas etc.
The funny thing is, she just finds someone else. She called a few weeks ago because SS was sick and wanted DH to watch him, DH didn't really want to because we have BS who is 13 months, so didn't really care to bring sick SS in house to make BS sick... so DH asked her why she wasn't staying home with him (like most normal mother's would) and she says she can't because she has to go to work, that she begged her boss for extra hours because she is sooo broke, she has a negative balance in her checking account and already had to borrow money from a friend.... the woman is 36 years old!! what a freeking loser. But she'll NEVER change.
I feel for ya!!!
Gosh, you know... as per
Gosh, you know... as per email from yesterday, BM wants to take the kids to get their passports ASAP and wants DH to split the costs, which certainly isn't a problem, but she has the money for passports ASAP but can't pay the damn pharmacy bill and get her money back later.
I too can't wait for when the monthly CS$ stops rolling, if she doesn't find and keep a man wiling to support her, she'd be back living with her parents probably!
Update: I walked to the
Update: I walked to the nearest Walgreens, because they refused to take credit card info over the phone. Yup, pregnant me with baby in stroller, we took a nice 20 min walk to get there, and another 20mins to get back. Luckily the weather is nice outside. I put in my credit card info, because DH has his cards and absolutely does not have the time right now to leave work to do this crap. I called BM's Walgreens to make sure the bill got paid, begged them to mail the receipt for me but they said they can't, begged them to at least put it in a sealed envelope with my name on it and then BM'll have to give it to us, hopefully. They claim they don't print duplicates and they have to give that one copy to the person picking up the prescription. This world is not geared for dealing with blended family situations, kinda reminds me of how the world was before all the left-handed people finally got tools designed just for them.
The upside - Baby and I got some sunshine, I got some good exercise, and now I can finish off that slice of chocolate cake that DH got me for Valentine's guilt-free! SS's going to get his medication. DH doesn't have to worry about getting fired for having to leave work at a crucial time to deal with this crap. BM can keep all the extra money she's pocketing and blow it at the club this weekend. I'm a-waiting for that karma bus to roll around...
Oh please it is not about her
Oh please it is not about her being able to budget the money, it is all about control! Not to mention I wouldn't pay for anything other then what I had too! If she wants the kids to have passportS she she can take them some where then that should be hers to pay!!! And any other crap she wants for her to do things on her time with them is hers to pay!
Yeah, control plays a big
Yeah, control plays a big part, but it's worsened by the fact that she can't manage money, and heck, likes to think she still has control over DH's money.
We would pay for half the passports though, because at some point we hope to be able to take them somewhere too, and would like to have those passports freely available to us. And I'm all for the kids getting to travel. And I know for a fact that BM will not pay a cent for their travel, her parents are the ones paying.