Sigh. I keep thinking we're screwed. BM keeps asking for more money.

A little history - she waited until DH got a nice fat raise in salary before agreeing to sign off on the divorce. Since then however, they have not been going according to court order because BM is working under the tables and agreed to less $$ while giving DH more time with the kids. When we got married, we didn't tell anyone until afterward and then she flipped out and demanded more money for no reason, and DH gave in to her because she threatened to never let him see his kids again. Back then he really never stood up to her manipulating ways. Of course I was livid that he jumped to her threat and made that financial decision without consulting me and made it known that it was never to happen again. Then, DH had a pay cut and we informed her of this and she reluctantly agreed to a lower amount. But she has since been asking for more almost every month religiously.

BM and the kids live in her parents house, and kids see us only on weekends. Her father recently had heart surgery and cannot work for maybe 3-6 months at least, and she claimed she needs more money because of that. DH told her we cannot give her any more. The latest story now is that she MAY be losing her job. Now if she does lose her job, we will definitely be required to pay more, but we have no way of actually verifying this. She works under the tables and we have no idea of how much money she makes. She can tell us she's lost her job and very well still be working. I think it might just be a threat similar to what happened when DH and I got married but this time the issue making her flip out is the 'OUR' baby that is due soon.

I know DH is very scared and, in a way, so am I. Once she is working under the tables we have some leverage on her, but if she isn't, she can take us to court and even file for back payments. DH can get thrown in jail and then, my new family is screwed, all the while, he's still going to have to pay CS while not having a job (yes, I know, I am a worrier!!) I'm trying to wait until the end of the week to even bring up this topic with DH because he has a very tough week at work, and I don't want to give him additional stress, and I hope she doesn't bother him at work and that if she does, he has the strength to either ignore or not let it get to him.

Has anyone had this kind of experience? How real do you all think is this threat of going back to court and getting thrown in jail? Is it worth it to keep up our stance or should we just give in a give her a little more money to appease her for a little while?