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Stupid past that invades present life... small vent

stepmom31's picture

So, DH still has the car he had when he was married to BM. She and her family are the only reason he bought that car in the first place, her dad works at the car sales place, and convinced him to get this car and another for BM.

DH was the one paying for both cars of course. After the divorce, BM kept the one she was using, but never paid and DH never paid for it either, so it was repossessed. Of course, it was in DH's name only, so he take the hit on his credit. DH kept the one he had and kept paying for it because it was about the only thing good going for him on his credit report, which he's been trying to repair slowly. Of course, this one is in BOTH their names, and to get her name off, they insist it would have to be refinanced, and DH's credit isn't very wonderful right now, so that would mean MORE interest, so he's paying and her credit is getting a helping hand.

Anyway, had he just taken back that damn car from BM and paid on that one instead of the one we have, payments would have been less each month AND it would have been paid off by now!!! And this one could have been sold to pay off the loan, or something.

But nope, we're still here making these damn car payments. BM's got a new ride from her dad free-of-charge. And on top of that, she believes that it's HER business to send him information about his car, updates from the makers, product recall notices etc. She's very concerned about the car it seems.

Now my part of my brain says that when DH is finished paying for this car, it makes a lot of financial sense to keep it for as long as possible, and DH wants me to have it, so that he can get a van/truck. But some other part of my brain is telling me to scratch it up, smash all the windows and set it ablaze, and then get myself a nice hybrid.

Anyway, for now, it isn't my car and I'm going to try to put it out of my mind, while I walk to the produce store. Gotta focus on the wonderful sunshine and the fresh air, the way my heart gets pumping and my blood circulating, all of which are good for me, and be thankful that (even though, I do technically still own a car - totally paid for by myself, I gave it over to my family when I left my country to move here, and my mom, dad and sis really needed it) I don't have a damn car!

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bioandstep2009's picture

These names crack me up Crayon! LOL. Let me see if I got this right though. Uncle Kinky is formerly known as The Glommer right?

bioandstep2009's picture

BM still has the car that was DH's. It was pre-owned when they got it 10 years ago. She took it (nicer car) and he got stuck with the minivan. Well, he pretty much had SS all the time so I guess that made sense. Glad that he got rid of the minivan before I met him. It's bad enough that our house is the previous marital house, it would have sucked to have either of the marital vehicles. Gradually, DH and I have been made improvements to the house over the past 3+ years, making it more ours by painting, replacing flooring, replacing furniture, re-arranging stuff etc.

bruisedpeach's picture

Same.
we live in thier starter home. when they bought the place SHE still lives in they kept it rather than sell and rented it out.
unfortunately the estate agents that looked after it employed her best mate.
so the house was trashed when we moved in and lo and behold. no security deposit.
we are gutting the place and doing renos as soon as the decree and financial order are signed off, fingers crossed be just a couple more months.
Even tho hasnt lived her in 4 years I still feel her skanky cooties all over the place.