BM's been lying to us, to our daycare provider, and to her daughter's bio dad.

About a year ago, when SD5 (not fiance's actual daughter) and SS3 first started going to this new daycare, I remember DF remarking that BM put his name as SD's biological father. He kind of shrugged it off. About a month or two ago, after some strange comments from other daycare parents, I told DF that I don't think daycare knows that SD has a "real" dad and it's not you! He shrugged it off again, saying that he was sure they knew.

And here begin the lies...which have been going on for over a year in some cases and especially over the last month since SD started going to her real dad's house on weekends instead of to ours.

Lie #1: That SD's bioDad can't pick her up at day care because he doesn't get off of work early enough to get there by 5:30.
Proven Lie: My DF goes to pick up his son at daycare, and has also been picking up SD, bringing her to BM's house, so that SD can be picked up there by her bioDad -- all this running around because BM said that BioDad couldn't get to daycare on time. BUT, BioDad is always at BM's WAITING for SD to get there (via fiance) and seems pretty obvious he's been waiting for awhile...he has plenty of time to get to daycare to pick her up.

Lie #2: Today, DF asked BM why BioDad can't just get her if he obviously has time to make it there since he's always waiting. BM's lie was that BioDad REFUSES to pick up SD from daycare because he's never been there and doesn't know how to get there. (which pissed us off because he needs to just grow a pair and find out!)
Proven Lie (Self-admitted by BM): Tonight I am picking up SS3 from day care, and DF called BM to tell her that she'll have to figure out something because he's not going to have me running all over town (like HE always does) just to pick up SD and bring her somewhere else, to meet someone who'll bring her somewhere else! BM calls him later and says that bioDad "refuses to pick SD up at daycare because he's never been there." DF tells her that bioDad better stop acting like a child and start acting like a parent! Later, BM calls him again and says that "Actually...Daycare doesn't know that SD has a different dad than you...so I don't really want her to know, so I'll just pick her up."

Lie #3 (already covered): BM has never told Daycare that her daughter has a bio dad. This is ridiculous because I'm sure daycare has figured it out when SD refers to spending the weekend with "Daddy BioDad" that it is NOT my fiance...she's a smart woman. And that SD goes with her "other" grandma that is not her brother's grandma...Does BM really think that daycare wouldn't figure it out? And then wonder why she listed DF as the biological father?

Who knows what lies BM has been feeding to SD's bioDad!

I've had it with BM's idiocy....and BM still doesn't want to explain the situation with her daughter's real father to daycare. When I pick up SS3 tonight I'm going to explain the situation to daycare so that SOMEONE is being an adult here!!