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Vent as BM about Stepdad (DH)!!

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Submitted by StickAFork on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 12:24pm

ARGH!!!

I understand stepparenting is difficult. I've done it 20+ years. He's done it about 5...
DH walks in and asks me a question, and blammo....there's DD interrupting asking a question.

I call her out, tell her she's being rude, and needs to wait a minute.
DH turns on his heel and storms off...panties allll in a twist.

WTF?

How should I have handled that?

I feel like he reacted as though I'd engaged DD in conversation. It's SOOO frustrating!!

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Submitted by StickAFork on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 12:39pm

I'm just SO irritated about it!
I asked him, what did he want me to do differently.
Nothing.
Reaalllly, then why the huff and puff and disappearance act?
ARGH.

Maybe I just let the wind out of his sails by parenting, like you said.

And I'll be the first to admit, my DD is...high maintenance. She is sweet and loving and FULL of drama and attitude. I try to make sure she's kept on a tight leash, cause, damn... if I let her have free reign... I can't even imagine. She'd be a total hellion!

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Submitted by Annanymous on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 2:33pm

I think he was just annoyed with your DD "here she comes again", even if you handled it right. It still stops conversation, attention is still redirected to her to tell her to stop, and really, you know, other people's kids are way more annoying than one's own, even if both kids were doing the exact same thing.

I don't think he was mad at you, he was probably just irritated and thinking "FFS shut up" or something about the kid and being irritated. Try not to be mad about that, its hard not to think that about kids. At least he walked away instead of saying it to your kid.

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Submitted by not.the.crazy.one on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 3:31pm

You did the right thing. He was either mad that you took care of it before he got to bitch, or mad he got interrupted.

My skids interrupt people ALL the effing time. And DH does nothing. If they interrupt a convo I'm having with him, I just walk away. If they interrupt a convo I'm having with someone else, I just ignore them.

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Submitted by reallifedrama on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 7:27pm

I would have hug, kissed, and treated my DH as if it were our anniversary if he EVER would have stopped my SS in his tracks when he interrupted me!!!!!!!

I don't believe he was ever even AWARE, let alone capable of showing me that kind of respect.

When SS opened his mouth, the rest of the world became muted to my DH.

Maybe he was just in a pissy mood. I get annoyed at my own kids for doing this, sometimes. I'd ask him if he got mad at you or at your daughter.

Seriously, what more could you have done?

Kudos to you for not talking right over DH, and for teaching your daughter better.