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Submitted by Storm76 on Wed, 10/21/2009 - 9:51am

Well, today my SS turns 10, which has got my OH freaking out about feeling old! His BM is picking him up from school to spend a couple of hours with him, then the plan is that OH & myself pick him up to take him out to dinner. The possible problem? SS started insisting at the weekend that he wanted BM to come out for the meal too. BM said no, she wouldn't be going, and that she would try to work on him this week, but I'm slightly worried about how SS will be tonight. Hopefully, he'll just be distracted by the pile of presents he'll be getting, but I'm worried it could turn into a drama.

On a slightly different note, we're taking SS up to see his grandparents this weekend, and whenever he's comign to stay with us there's always something not packed so we either have to buy it or go back to BMs for it. At what age are kids logical enough to be able to pack effectively for themselves? Not having any bio kids myself I don't know whether it's something that BM should be doing or at least overseeing for him, or whether he should be able to pack for himself.

Will report back on how tonight goes tomorrow - wish me luck!

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Submitted by Amazed on Wed, 10/21/2009 - 9:59am

hopefully he'll just be a happy camper and enjoy his birthday drama free...

the packing issue is questionable as far as age is concerned. SD is 11 and is CONSTANTLY forgetting things. My son is 7 and is a total scatterbrain. If SD is left to pack for herself at BM's she'll end up bringing a bunch of stuff that is not weather appropriate or stuff that is 2 sizes too small for her. Bm should definitely be overseeing his packing efforts. If it were my son, I'd check on him probably until he's about 15 or 16 just to make sure he didn't forget anything. Hell, I'm 27 and I would still LOVE to have someone look at my bags and say, "uh barbie you forgot xyz"

Good luck babe...I hope it goes smoothly!

~The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly - that is what each of us is here for.~
Oscar Wilde

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Submitted by reeny511 on Wed, 10/21/2009 - 10:04am

good luck! My SD10 always ask if her mom can come to a special event or she'll ask her mom if her dad (my DH) can come. At 10 she doesn't understand why these two people cant be in the same room together! on your other note, I have to tell you we went away for three days to Disney and found out on 3rd day that SD10 didnt pack a toothbrush! So everytime I told her to go brush she was in the bathroom faking it. I usually dont go in her overnight bag, but from now on I guess I have to.

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Submitted by stemother42 on Wed, 10/21/2009 - 10:12am

I have gone threw this with my Bson's who are 21,19,18 when they were younger. both homes had to have most of there own things for the children and that made it easier for parties on each end. but for the extra things that can go back and forth like games and toys and favorite things they should pack it then no one is to blame if it's for gotten rules are rules no turning around once you leave in the car...

now my stepchild 4 of them know the same rule for get it don't come back once you leave have a nice weekend.. because if they come back in they throw a fit or shit hit's the fan rules are rules stick with them...