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stormabruin's picture

I posted a comment on someone else's blog in polite disagreement but it was deleted. I can only guess to make it appear as though everone agrees with the OP's thoughts. So, I'm posting it in my own blog.

As far as people passing judgement on a man who cares deeply for his girlfriend's daughter,

When I met DH I spent a lot of time with his kids while he was working. I took them to baseball games, to the park, picked them up from daycare & took them out to eat. We went rollerskating together. We did homework & watched movies together. We had discussions about questions they had. I talked with them about what they wanted in life. They were 6 & 8. SD6 at the time wanted to be a lunch lady. SS8 at the time wanted to be a doctor. DH was working a lot of late hours out of town & most nights wouldn't get home until 10-10:30pm. Had they not been with me, they'd have been at DH's mom's house, which would mean that by the time DH got there to pick them up & get them home, they wouldn't be in bed until 11:30pm. For nearly a year, I spent more time with his kids than he did. That doesn't make me a sexual predator. It wasn't all sparkles & glitter, but we had some really really fun & happy times together.

I'm not saying I'm blind to the fact that there are indeed people we need to watch out for. The child has a mother & I hope that she will be watchful for her child.

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stormabruin's picture

Thanks!

Because my comment elluded to the fact that just because an adult loves a child who isn't theirs doesn't make that person a child molester. It went against the grain of the OP's blog.

stormabruin's picture

My take on it is that if they don't want me posting my thoughts on their blogs they should refrain from doing so on mine. I choose not to delete so freely, however. I like for the people reading to be able to see feelings & thoughts from all sides. I am confident that others are capable of ignoring what they don't agree with.

stormabruin's picture

Or it could just be that someone is too judgemental to think that there are possibilities aside from what they think they know. Or it could be that someone can't handle someone disagreeing with them. Or it could be that someone doesn't want other posters to see that there are things to be considered other than what they assume is true. There are a variety of possibilities. Most of them come down to the fact that someone can't handle thinking outside of the box.

Totalybogus's picture

I also agree. I had someone not only delete my post, she called me profane names as well just because I had another take on the situation. I certainly wasn't disrespectful to her, just saw it differently. I actually have to laugh when someone does this. It is very telling about their character.

stormabruin's picture

"Funny, that loving a skids gets a creepy vibe, but saying "I hate my skid" doesn't."
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I guess that explains a lot about why so many skids hate their stepparents. I can't say I blame them.

IAMTRYIN's picture

I haven't read the post being refered to but if he did infact refer to his SD's camel toe I mean really come on how is that appropiate. I'm going to read his blogs now.