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I already in a pissed off mood and now am having trouble posting... Will post in comment section.

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I realize that I am probably just over-reacting, but I really need to get it out before I explode.

Every other weekend the kids go to their grandparents. #1 This allows for me and DH to spend some time alone and #2 It allows for me to get some much needed stuff done without everybody up my ass.

Usually the kids are gone by the time I get home from work every other friday. Yesterday I get home and low and behold SD8 is still here. Why? I have no fucking clue. This is now the second EOWE is a row DH has kept her home. He used to be completely normal. He used to make it an important point that we have some alone time together now all of sudden its been over month since we have had even 5 minutes to ourselves.

SD8 is the most ill-behaved, socially disfunctional child I have ever met in my life. This whole situation probably wouldn't even bother me had it been BS9 or SD4. SD8 is the one I need the break from!!

Last night DH tells me that he came home and asked SD8 who picked all the petals off the orchid he bought me. He said she got 2 ft from his face and started screaming at him. So he was pissed. So what do we do? Take her out dinner then go shopping where she gets to pick out some new clothes. umm... hello? DH are you home? WTF! The minute we get home she is still asking if she can go to her papas. No Thank you for taking me to eat, buying me new stuff. nothing. DH says no, that he wants to spend some time with her. Within an hour he is sleeping and it is just me and DH. Usually on my quiet fridays I would stay up, relax, watch tv, do laundry .. whatever... but not tonight I got SD. So I send her to bed and go to bed.

After being up half the night with aggravation and taking care of the new puppy DH just had to have I am so tired and pissed. Of course, DH and SD are up at the butt crack of dawn. Do you think they could be any bit of quiet? Nope. Then DH asks me if I want to go to this big mall. Its kind of far away and super big. I havent been there in probably 10 years. Of course I want to go, but not with DH and SD. This is suppose to be MY time with MY DH! Why would I go with SD? To watch her parade around like an asshole and spend our money? What happened to my DH? He has never been like this before. He would never let her act like this and then reward her. Not to mention the fact that I have a 10 page paper due tomorrow that I put off all week because it is impossible to get anything done with SD around. She is so obnoxious. She is loud, always making these annoying noises and asking a billion stupid questions when she can point blank see I am trying to work. So now I am 10x more pissed because I put it off until this weekend with the assumption that SD would not be here. But she is! and I just dont get it.

I am super aggravated that I have not had any alone time with my DH in over a month. None! And the weekend I have been looking forward to he, for some fucked up reason, has made into a weekend all about SD. I fucking hate step life! Now Im just sitting here and can't help but cry. Too afraid to leave my room because the sound of her annoying voice will make me want to snap!

Good morning Ladies!! Which ever of you are skid free this weekend... better drink a bottle for me!

stressed-mom's picture

Exactly. No matter where I hide in the house she finds me. The only time I can get anything done is after she goes to bed. But staying up half the night to finish homework is hard when I have to get up at 6 for work. I shouldn't have to. There's no reason she can't respect that I am trying to work and leave me alone. She can't though. Its like she has some stupid chip in her brain that tells her she must do whatever possible to make sure everybods attention is solely on her at all times. Uuggghhh!

Thank you. I'm glad I'm not crazy.

Onefootout's picture

I've been there, I feel for you.

That child ruined your orchid? I love orchids! I just gasped when I read that. And the child is still alive?

You're not overreacting. You're being taken advantage of. You should never, and I repeat never, have to babysit that hellion so your DH can take a cat nap. Especially when you have a paper due. His child, his job! Some men, I tell you.

And now you're holed up in your room like a cornered animal protecting yourself from that devil child.

I hope next time SD is at your house, you leave the house the entire weekend, go to the library to write your paper, etc, go to that mall BY YOURSELF, or just you and your biokids. I'd bet money once your DH is forced to care for SD the entire weekend without your free nanny services, the visits will become less frequent. And the more time you spend without DH, and he's stuck alone with his brat, and has to clean up puppy poo himself, he may start to miss having adult companionship.

You're making life way to easy for your DH. I know, I used to do that too in a previous relationship. I learned my lesson.

Good luck!

stressed-mom's picture

If only leaving for the weekend was that easy. Dh is CP. BM only pops her head in just enough to mess SD up even more. Ugggh... this day sucks.

stressed-mom's picture

Custodial parent. We get this lovely SD Fulltime. Apparently every fucking day. Which is definitely not what i signed up for.

Onefootout's picture

Yes full time is tough. We have SS full time. Mine is much older so it's a lot easier for me to disengage.

stressed-mom's picture

To add... yes DH bought me a beautiful orchid for Valentine's day it was shaped like a heart with white petals. I can't believe it lived so long until that little brat pulled every last petal off it. She destroys everything. Everything in our house. Including my weekend!

stressed-mom's picture

No. For some sick reason papa actually wants to see her. Maybe because she's been stuck to my ass for over a month now and he hasnt seen her. Idk but he called me last night asking why she didn't call to be picked up yet. I told him apparently DH wants to spend time with her. Idk I can tell DH is already super annoyed with her.