My heart just cant take anymore
Saturday started off as a good day. I took my BD12 to her practice and had intentions of coming home and my DH and I going to look at a car for BD15.
BUT while at practice, BD15 sent me a text that said DH doesnt realize that BD15 is there and he was on the phone with SD20. He was telling her that she is like him, carefree, doesnt care and is living life. Then he said "you can stay here during the summer when you are out of college"
SD20 has decided that the college she goes too, she does not like. We bought her a house there to live in. SHe has it made. She has not worked since January 2008 and does what she wants when she wants at my DH's and MIL expense.
Later on in the phone conversation, He said "Maybe sunshine (me) is jealous of you because at age 16 she fell in love and got pregnant and you havent got pregnant, you SD20 have been able to have a childhood, sunshine hasnt so maybe you should be nicer to her"
Okay so my BD15 sends me a text of the conversation of DH and SD20 and let me just say. I could not get home quick enough to lay into him.
My BD15 felt like she was a mistake and his daughter was perfect. I had all kinds of emotions and was very upset.
When I got home he asked if we were going to look at car for BD15 and I told him I wasnt going anywhere with him until he called SD20 up and told her that whatever he said about me was a lie and should of never said anything like that to her. He never called her or he didnt in front of me.
I told him i felt second class to him and I do not trust him and to get the hell out of my house.
Needless to say I havent seen him since Saturday afternoon.
Really,,, was that inappropriate on his behalf? I dont get along with the girl because she has no respect for her father, me, our home and gets what she wants. ME NOT GETTING ALONG with her HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY PAST!!!
OH and he also told SD20 that next time she needed to ask me if she can leave her dog at out house instead of just dumping it and leaving. AND THAT HE DIDNT CARE FOR HER Leaving the dog because it was his house to but she needed to ask me. SO needless to say, he just told her he could care less if she brought the dog and left it without asking but because I am a WITCH she needed to ask me at least!!!!
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sunshine
I need to get updated. I thought you already filed the papers to divorce him or did he manage to find a way to worm his way back in? I have been divorced myself so I know the process of letting go and moving forward is a slow one.
"SD20 has decided that the college she goes too, she does not like. We bought her a house there to live in. SHe has it made. She has not worked since January 2008 and does what she wants when she wants at my DH's and MIL expense."
You bought the ungrateful spoiled to death little witch a house and he has the nerve to say that about you!! Move him into the house with his daughter and dont let him come back.
I had some major issues..
with one of my BD's that required him to be there. It was really serious and he was there for me through this and I needed him and I let him back in the house. But never called off the divorce. It is currently set for next month.
Sweetie..
First, if I had to title a blog, that would be it..My heart just cant take anymore.. I wish I could make everything better for you by just waiving my magic wand and saying "Poof". First, "you can stay here during the summer when you are out of college"...why would he put you through that when she has a place to stay there? If she's not taking classes during the summer, she needs to get a J-O-B. I could maybe, maybe, understand if she was on scholarship and had to play ball all summer or something, but really..she needs to contribute in some form or fashion. As to DH, I know you, and you are a beautiful woman inside and out. Its really hard for me to give any advice because I myself cannot decide whether to stay or go. You are a survivor, Sunshine, just remember all that you have been through and the struggles you have overcome. You can and will get through this. I love you sweetheart and you know that whatever you decide I am behind you 100%.
Wow...that was very wrong of him
I'm sorry you're hurting...what he said to his daughter was just stupid!!
Over. The. Line.
How dare he compare you, HIS WIFE, to his daughter and tell her that she is somehow better because she managed to not get pregnant when she was 16?!?! I'd be a lot prouder of a 16 year old that got pregnant and made sacrifices to raise her child properly than a 20 year old princess like her. And how terrible for your daughter to overhear that. I'm so sorry for you both.
Gossip
That was very hurtful of him to sit there and gossip about you in your house, where your daughter could hear and be hurt by it. Also to give SD the impression YOU are jealous of HER, a spoiled child, is like giving ammunition to a terrorist - just stupid!!! He deserves to be divorced if that is his attitude - this just burns me up!!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
He is a DUMBASS. He just
He is a DUMBASS. He just gave stupid a whole level. What was he thinking saying something like that period? Never mind it was within hearing range of your daughter. Wait.....I said thinking....sorry.
He is an unfeeling jerk and should have never, ever of said that to SD20.
Good luck! Stay strong.
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