So it is my 50th birthday on Friday.  I am on vacation this week and BS11 and I drove up to my parents today my husband plans to get off work early on Friday and drive thec3hrs up.

Let me preface my sister thought I was nuts to want to spend my birthday with our parents... My 40th was pretty disappointing because we had to celebrate in a different day because my sister in laws friends kids birthday was that day, so we went out for pizza on the day before at a place they like...nothing else.

I told my parents all I wanted was to spend the day with them and my son touring  Glensheen mansion. My dad did restoration on it and I wanted my son to hear about it from my dad. Then have some form of dinner with them and my husband. 

My dad has bladder cancer and is doing well and is having a treatment on Thursday but is able to run my 16 yr old niece to a hair appointment but doesn't feel he would be up to doing the tour Friday but plans on working on the garage he is building Saturday and was wondering about my husband's carpenter skills so he could help too...then we are going out for pizza.

Also my brothers 17 yr old has court tomorrow for her creating a disturbance when she jumped out of her mother's car in May. She has major mental health issues and should be institutionalized but my brother's health insurance does not cover mental health and he would have to pay 30k out of pocket.  She went nuts tonight on her parents when they told her what was happening tomorrow. 

My poor 13 yr old nephew got to witness that insanity . Tomorrow I had already planned a fun day with him and my son, so I am glad that he will have somewhere to be that has nothing to do with all of that. He is a pretty good kid with two screwed up sister's.

There is a part of me that wants to call my husband and tell him stay home, bs and I will spend f riday with my mom and be home that night. I love my family very much but my dad is a difficult person.  My sister even told him when she was here last month( she is his favorite) that she has no idea why I would want anything to do with him ever because he is such an ass to me. He apparently treated her like he does me. She told him he was lucky that I always make the effort.

I feel like I am being selfish for just wanting to have a nice time with them and not have it be a freaking work a thon while we are here. The trusses won't be here till the end of September so there is no rush. With everything going on at my brothers house he probably doesn't need to have to be building a garage this Saturday and my husband has a physical job too and will help but again nothing was mentioned until I got here today.

I am pretty sure the shit will hit the fan tomorrow with my niece and it should be interesting to see what my sil does. She is a big part of the problem and her refusal to get help has lead to this....they are all pretty broken.

So I am just not sure what to do.... I am thinking my sister was right and I should have stayed home with my kid and my husband, but I also feel like my mom and my nephew need me to be here until at least Friday to help out. Would I be wrong to just spend time with my mom and son Friday and bring my nephew with if need be and leave late afternoon for the 3 hr drive home?