Well, I found an attorney who is going to draft up a cease and desist letter as well as letter to the websites to delete my SD's blog websites. I am going to meet with attorney on Thursday to give him the documents and pay him.

I had to change our phone # due to physical threats coming now. And my husband is still absolutely furious with SD. Actually, it's a good thing she isn't closeby, or he would have broken her neck! I was able to email biomom some information and she was actually fairly amiable with her response. But did not agree to send SD in for counseling at this time. However, I did explain some of the reason why we were so hurt by SD's behavior so maybe, she can enlighten SD and give her a clue.
I'll have to see what comes of it.
It's been a really rough few days...not that my husband is exactly thrilled with the solution I've come up with as I know he was wanting something much more severe.
Regards,
Sweetie