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SD Early this morning attempted suicide --overdose on tylenol

thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

Well, yesterday I was having a bit of humour in my blog(and I dont mind if people still post in it because it really is just for fun) and today you can imagine what a piece of shit I feel like when BM calls around 12:45AM today telling SO that his Daughter overdosed on tylenol in an attempt to commit suicide....she is turning 15 in December.

This women calls ONLY to ask for CS when it isnt paid on the first, she will e-mail also, AGAIN she FAILED to let SO know what the fuck is going on...The first time she did this was when we dropped off an IPOD at BMs place in may and the financial investigator came out in her--after her inquisitions she than proceeds to tell us that SS failed Gr.7 but will be promoted to Gr.8...isn't that more important first off than getting money?
I told SO this(before) and today(perhaps I shouldnt have) that BMs concern firstly is receiving her CS...she has Sole Custody of the kids(SD 15 &SS13)(there divorce was 14 yrs ago and it was during a PRO-Mom Era, I have primary residency of my DD and have joint custody, it is definitely not PRO-Mom now).

His daughter has some MAJOR self body image issues and was upset that all the girls in her HighSchool, were thin and beautiful, and she felt she couldnt compete(I am sure there are other issues). This girl is not fat and she is extremley pretty! What the HELL is going on in todays youth? Even my 5 year old makes odd remarks. BM has a history of BPD and I wonder if it is hereditary(although in BMs case--I think it is a temper tantrum and not BPD).

SD has requested that she wants to live with SO & I and I have absolutely zero problems in her coming to live with us...I think we can give her a more balanced home(I dont think BM is a shitty mother she just has weird tendencies)...BM spews so much religious rhetoric in her children, that SD is afraid to lie, even about her age(ex-when we stayed at a hotel- kids 13 and under were free) she almost cried, SS was petrified during a thunderstorm that it was the apocalpyse..BM put SD on anti depressants and never consulted SO about this(she doesnt have to as she has Sole Custody--from a legal POV) but I mean come on...this is a chemical going into your daughters body. BM claims that, she tried to get a hold of him, yes she did, she wanted CS-she didnt bother mentioning the rest...This is the same women that told her 4 & 6 yearold kids(at the time) that Santa doesnt exist---her claim because she doesnt want to lie to her children.

SD will be in the hospital for a few weeks, I really hope she will be okay. She really is a wonderful person and I would hate to see her in this kind of mental turmoil. SO is going to see her tonight(visiting hours are in the evening)...I also wonder if SD does stay with us I would assume CS would be cancelled since SS would be with BM( i probably shouldnt have mentioned that to SO this morning--feel gulty) but sometimes this STEPLIFE can be a financial burden and VERY much Anxiety Ridden...if it was just me and DD I would have a lot more money saved, would graduate...it doesnt matter about that, but being a Single Mother from the get go, I have a different perspective than most people would.

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thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

Thank you!

Starla's picture

I hope she is okay too. Am surprised that they would keep her for 2 weeks, a week is the average bc they push to get patients out. I don't know how changing the CS works, doesn't one of the bio parents have to file for any changes?

Hope you keep us posted and best of luck! Smile

thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

Were in Ontario--so I am not sure if it is different for patients to leave, but according to BM she said a few weeks(her father used to be a psychiatrist in the hospital SD is in)...as for CS less than relevant at this moment, but still curious to know if it cancels it out! BM would still get the baby bonus for SD.

thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

I unfortunately thought of this...I know someones whose friend committed suicide(their sister saw her hanging there) and the thought of that has haunted me...I would hate for my daughter to walk in on something like that...there will be time to discuss these things when the time arises. I just dont want SO to think I hate his kids.

z3girl's picture

^THIS^

My friend hung herself from a tree outside her window when we were 15, and her 8 year old sister was the one who found her. The sister is having a very hard time coping in life still at almost 30 years old, and not for lack of support from her parents/family. You definitely don't want to take that chance with your daughter until you at least can feel comfortable that SD won't seriously try again.

I also happen to know someone who ended up on a liver transplant list at 18 years old after swallowing two bottles of Tylenol. Very scary situation here.

Mercury's picture

Oh wow. If you are ok with it, it does seem like she will have a more balanced life with you and SO. Are you prepared to deal with her emotional problems if they happen with you and SO too?

I feel for you. It is tough to de-program kids who have been bombarded with religious guilt their whole lives. My SD12 has emotional problems that only manifest when she is with her mother. Raging tantrums. She seems calm and relaxed but a little shy and reserved at our house. DH is hoping he can provide balance to counteract BMs skewed wacky views on life.

thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

Thank you..I am okay with religion, but her religion is different...its a sect of anglican but not popular(doesnt matter) but wow...I kind of think her mother has something to do with it...SO said that BM would go thru cycles of being reclusive...I wonder if it has happened to SD as well.
I hope we can give her the balance she deserves and to emphasize, looks will fade! Those girls in HS they will explode when their older and as you mature, looks really are the surface its whats in the core that matters!

Thank god for you and your husband, I hope your SD gets over her insecurities as well..

Mercury's picture

Thank you. I have a soft spot in my heart for troubled, angry, smart, young girls. I was one of those once upon a time and so I guess I see some potential down deep inside of them. I don't know about your SD, but mine has been getting powerfully negative messages from her mother as she is going through puberty. I wasn't trying to sound bitter about religion, but the type I'm talking about was centered on hellfire and damnation and EVERYTHING about human nature is sinful.

thebrokenrecordmachine's picture

Yes...I have heard that the relationship changes once the Step Kids move in...in fact I probably shouldnt have but I mentioned that to him today...I have had much anxiety in this step family dynamic more from a financial perspective and because he and BM have a cordial relationship(even though she freaks out on him at certain times of the year) it means she will see where were living and then I will be blamed for him not being able to see his kids...because he's spending all the money on me..BS.(we hardly have any).

Right now- I have a vehicle, SO does not...I was doing A LOT of driving, driving CS to BM, seeing the kids etc...I put a stop to that after BM started being unreasonable.

I REALLY DO want to make this relationship work...however, sometimes there is too much drama and I dont think it is me that causes it!

I hope SD gets the help she needs.
But yes I have considered it...we dont need to decide anything yet anyways...but its always good to get another perspective.
I do not trust SD to watch my daughter at all now(she hasnt as of yet)...that unfortunately has been shattered!

Rags's picture

I am sorry she is hurting this badly. I hope you can get her in to your home so you and her dad can start to normalize her and get her ready for the world.